Difficult situation - sensitive and may offend some - advice needed

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My son's 19 year old girlfriend is pregnant (just). She is currently in hospital as her weight is way below normal and she is dehydrated through sickness.

She has no family, is scared, and can barely look after herself, never mind a baby, and I have little confidence in my son's ability to take responsibility. At the moment they are in a flat they struggle to pay the rent on, she is not working (dropped out of college earlier this year) and he has reasonably paid but very insecure casual work. They are both useless with money.

I'm willing to be proved wrong, but seriously think that they should consider termination as an option - neither are really happy about the pregnancy, which was not planned in any way.

Any suggestions as to how to handle this?

I agree with Blu et al.

I do, fwiw, completely see where you're coming from.

Adoption?

this happened to my dd2 she was pregnant at 18 after being with her bf 6 weeks

she knew from views already that i would support her no matter what happened in her life and we had talked about5 friends who had had abortions

she knew that i was not keen on terminations but would always be supportive of her or her friends who ever needed to ttslk

however she never said she was pregnant until she was about 27 weeks

i think she was in denial herslef

she also was bordering on sanorexic when she got pregnasnt

her bf had been in care and already had a son..his other son is 1 year older so was a little baby..

so none of this good news really

dd2 had a job in a kitchen and so did bf

they hasve had lots of ups and downs but dgs is now 4

they have had bailiffs bf has been not working etc tho dd2 has always wworjked

i did mind dgs for about 18 monthsw when i was a running a business from home

he is a lovely littleboy, he is close to his half brother tho there was a ong period when that was npot the case and bf is now training as a car mechanic and dd2 has managed 5to move into office work

good luck to your ds and his gf and the baby

hopefully it may not be as bad as you think

this is where unconditional lover comes in

they hsave to make ther e own decisions really ...even if they ate not the opnes you would have chosen

that ius a rogue 5 she didnt have 5 friends who had abortions just 1