Please help!

[Daisypops]

I just want some advice. Looked at my DP's phone a few weeks ago and a woman had text him. It said 'Glad tobe back in my nice warm house' then something else thatI didn't getchance to read but the text had a fair few kisses at the end. DP caught me looking at his phone and his face was like he'd just poo'd himself. He said he knew her years ago fromwork and shes just started texting him out of the blue. I asked if i could see his phone again and he would't let me.
Then tonight he was at his pc, he had MSN minimised, but I saw the same girls name (and another) with lovehears at the side of them. I asked him about it and he said there were loads of people on there from years ago, but these names were at the top of the list (does that mean hes chatted to them recently?) Hesaid there were blocked which they were.

I've got back from my friends and hes gone about, not answering his phone and has trimmed his man hair in the bathroom coz its all over the floor.

I just don't know what to do. My mum is sleeping and I have no one else to talk to.

I can't prove hes actually doing anything but text and MSN is bad enough for me.

I don't trust him 100% hence why I was looking at his phone. I'm just heartbroken that he could do this to me.

I feel sick and can't sleep. I'm angry, sad, feel stupid.

Please someone give me some advice.

TIA

You are so much better off away from him. I know that doesnt help now but regardless of the ins and outs of his 'infidelity' he hasnt been honest with you, he has been communicating with another woman behind your back and then playing it down and he hasn't offered all the things one normally would to dissprove your suspicions, like allow you to look at his phone PLUS he has a history of lying. I was with someone like this a few years ago, fortunately we didnt have children but I spent so mcuh time with this knot in my stomach, I turned into someone I didnt like, constantly checking up on him, looking at his phone, being needy, forgiving the pathetic lies....the list goes on. When I finally walked it took me a while but GOD I was me again. I did miss him but the anxiety went, I smiled more and I was so proud of myself. You are setting the best example to your daughter in not allowing yourself to be be walked over. Be brave. Its his loss. explain to him that he has to show you that he can care adequately for your dd before you are happy to let her go out with him, could he take her to a family member's you trust? Talk to a friend or family. You will meet someone who will treat you the way you deserve. He will be the loser.

Oh dear Daisy, I think that a lot of watchers of this thread will have wandered off before you updated

Maybe you could insist that he only sees her when you are there, if that is not too painful for you. Or your mum? You don't need that kind of stress on top of everything else.