Came across an email in deleted items of computer.

[Nomchanger]

Email is to a work colleague from DH. "Hello. I am sending you this email from home. Did you enjoy the such and such film?"

The film (DVD) belongs to my sister - she lent it to us. On the phone a short while ago I ask him "Where is the such and such DVD?" "I lent it to someone at work." says he. "Who?" says me. "Martin!" says he.

Why is he fibbing I just don't get it?

I am especially as the day he sent the email to her home email from his home email he was working from home and told me how busy busy busy he was. I ended up taking the children out to get out from under his hair.

He is out currently at some networking thing - he is probably fibbing about that too.

Please advise soonest.

I know I will probably get horribly flamed for this, but sometimes I just think that men just lie for an easy life.

He knows that if he said he had lent it to work strumpet lady you would probably have had a small strop (don't tell me I'm wrong, I would do the same) so he just says "Martin" to avoid an argument.

I think sometimes men's default setting is "avoid an argument at all costs".

And then emailing her about it - well even when I'm busy at work I send emails because work is dull and emailing is more fun.

If it is gnawing away at you, then ask him outright.

Say you saw the deleted email (which you could quite easily have come across by accident as you say) and then watch his reaction.

Say you are disappointed that he lied about giving it to Martin.

More than likely that it is completely innocent. He knows you dont like this woman or hearing about her, so he probably didnt want to tell you so that you may 'read more into it'.

If he doesn't usually delete emails it seems fishy. Out of interest, how do you look at deleted emails? It sounds as though there are several issues affecting your relationship and I hope you can sort them out.