What drives a man to splash loads of money on a woman?

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Been pondering this recently. A couple of male friends of mine are in newish relationships after divorce. Both are very generous with their money. One buying his gf a car, semi supporting her, lots of lovely holidays etc. He's not wealthy and the money is running out. The other fully supporting his new love and splashing out on holidays, clothes everything. Fairly wealthy but cannot carry on like there is no tomorrow.

I'm very independent and cannot work out how the dynamics of these relationships work. Can anyone enlighten me?

dunno but if there are any bachelors looking to do the same for a grumpy, overworked 26 year old can you send them my way .

I have no idea in all serious but i do wonder how the relationships will fare once the money runs out.

Oooh I wish I could find myself in a relationship with a man like that! It must be such fun to have someone spoil you in that way!

It's just their way of showing their love and/or affection for their partner abouteve.

[jealous].

Have you not worked it out?

Man gives the woman lots of money, cars and jewellery. She gives him lots of filthy sex.

The more money and gifts he gives, the filthier the sex he feels he can ask for.

Most rich guys are building up to a really fuck-off diamond ring, six-week holiday in Seychelles and top-of-range Zona, in return for which they will get a threesome with her and her fit best friend, and up the arse too.

I know what you mean about finding one. It's all alien to me. I will admit to accepting a gratis dinner now and again but that's about it. Not sure I would feel comfortable being a kept woman and having allsorts lavished on me. I've always paid my way. The said women are broke in their own right and their men will be if they don't see this and put the brakes on it.

Still its their business. It just smacks of a 'fool and his money'. Maybe I'm just jealous .

Hmm, yes, Big Man got to Provide for Little Woman.

Part of me would like to be on the receiving end of it and part of me thinks it's a bit weird. Do the women reciprocate in terms of generosity? Or do they sit there just accepting the gifts placed at their feet?

do you not remember the diamond ring in exchange for anal virginity

I must confess I would feel a bit like a prozzer were it me

UQ - doesn't mean he'll get the filthy sex he asks for

mutt - pfffff, as if!

I'd love a sugar Daddy

lol unquiet. i was thinking that but refrained.

I think people who overspend like that do it so they can fool themselves they've got tons of cash.
It's all a a bit 'look at me, I'm filthy rich'

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splashing out on holidays and cars they can't afford, I mean, not the odd meal out.

tell it like it is gits

Not unusual, is it?
mutatis mutandis (and adjusted for income) a lot of marriages seem to work the same way.
I'm reminded of an article from years ago by Jeanette Winterson about Le Creuset saucepans.

(cue madamez...? )

Unquietdad. The thing is I give all that and get f--k all out of it, too independent. Being a young women in the seventies has a lot to answer for.

One's and ex, (not exh), and he wants me back so she cannot be that good! He's not coming back when he's spent all that money on someone else. .

Simple question. Simple answer: their loins.

(Okay, UD put it better)

By TillyScoutsmum on Thu 24-Apr-08 13:40:47
I actually knew someone once who got jewellery for sexual favours. She had a fantastic diamond eternity ring on and when I asked what is was for (i.e. birthday pressie etc), she told me it was because she let her dh take her anal virginity

A ring for a ring and all that

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was that secret code icod.

honest to god i feel a bit guilty if i dont pay for half of dinner. i would feel like a hooker if someone did that. All i need for really dirty sex is to be asked nicely .......only messing but i do think i am missing a trick.

I never take it as a good sign, tbh.

I am in agreement with UD, FWIW.

There's no such thing as a free lunch.