What drives a man to splash loads of money on a woman?

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Been pondering this recently. A couple of male friends of mine are in newish relationships after divorce. Both are very generous with their money. One buying his gf a car, semi supporting her, lots of lovely holidays etc. He's not wealthy and the money is running out. The other fully supporting his new love and splashing out on holidays, clothes everything. Fairly wealthy but cannot carry on like there is no tomorrow.

I'm very independent and cannot work out how the dynamics of these relationships work. Can anyone enlighten me?

no prettyfly it was for me....is fabio crosser than FabioooOOOOOO?

lol.

anal virginity??? i think my eyes are being opened - and she got presents for that - in rl. not sex in the city???

I'm not saying there is anything actually wrong with the transaction, if both parties are happy... A lot of relationships seem built on less...

But it is surely more a business transaction and less a relationship...

without being too cynical an awful lot of the marriages i know seem to work this way. my own sisters included.

So he took her by the ring and gave her a ring?
Well at least there was some relevance between the gifts.
I am now suspicious of people with dogs and who have facials.

It would put me on my guard immediately.

Because it's showy.

I don't do showy.

but then are we being mugs, in my nans day it was customary for women to expect to be looked after - the more the better. why not?

I'd feel wierd in this kind of relationship tbh. I have never been supported by a man ever.

Think I've been missing a trick somewhere. I have met wealthy men who I never fancy, usually fancy the ordinary ones.

abouteve, so is your actual question:
'Why did they not spend that kind of money on seducing me?'

Maybe because you didn't ask.
Some women make it very clear that they prefer things the traditional way
as described by UQD: quid pro quo. Still common among non-Western women, in my experience.

Another reason could be that the guy feels that she's out of his league.
Spending money is a way to raise his status to her level.

In our nan's day, women couldn't expect to earn enough to support themselves. They had to marry. I can understand living off your husband's money if you have children to look after but not beyond that.

Actually, I have a very good male friend who has quite a bit of expendable income and does often splash out on me. He doesn't get any sexual favours in return, nor does he expect any. What he does get is a jolly good loyal friend though so I'm not complaining!

He doesn't spend money he doen't have though, so I guess it's not quite like the op...

A ring for a ring, Countess??!!!

Guilt in my case

DaddyJ No I don't think so. One of the men I had in mind is not my type at all.

The other is an ex who I split up with and he since inherited a fair wack but has spent most of it. This is one of the reasons we split he was a waster. We are still friends though.

Neither women are out of their league. Have another wealthy friend who also splurged on his now ex gf and she was definitely way out of his league so I understood the dynamnics in that one. Sugardaddy/Sugarbabe.

OMDB, yes same situation. A friend of mine does have plenty of dosh and I will let him treat me occasionally but he gets nothing in return, except my company of course. He's lovely but very unfanciable. Still some women would as they wouldn't have to lift a finger again.

I don't need someone to spend money on me to seduce me. I'm not a prostitute.

I suppose my new man (well actulaly I've been with him 2 months now - so not quite so "new" lol) is different from the OP as he only spends what he's got.

And I've not got any cars or the such like out of it

Pedilia, why through guilt?

I nearly opened the thread mentioning prostitution but decided against it.

In a family situation I see no problem with a man looking after a woman financially. Buying someone you love gifts and providing a good standard of living for them is a nice thing to do. But the woman should have access to the cash too and decide how to spend it too and be able to spoil the man too. In an equal relationship, the cash belongs to both.

Maybe your ex is just very bad with money?

FAQ. That is different. I agree it's nice to be given flowers, presents but these cases are way beyond this.

One installed his GF in his house within days of meeting her and she is kept by him and indulged.

that's very true -

although I must confess that this very nice computer I'm currently using was a gift from him

I had been seeing my new BF for 3 weeks before I even sat next to him on the sofa when he came round for pizza and wine (paid for by him of course ) - I sat in the chair and he sat on the sofa wondering what on earth I was doing....keeping on inviting him round, spending literally all night chatting with him, but not even sitting next to him LOL