Done a terrible thing and now my marriage is over.

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dh went out today with his friends at 1pm, i saw him at about 4 and he told me he would be home in an hour, 6pm still no sgn so i sent him a text asking where he was, no reply.
sent him a couple more, getting angrier and angrier until he rolled in at 8. i have had a migraine all day and we ran out of milk. when he came in and ds had gone to bed we had a huge row.

weve been having probs lately and he doesnt trst me, thinks im having an affair (im not) and he said that him coming home late was no different to the one time i was late (an hour because taxi didnt show) and i was "slagging around town" i lost my rag a bit and tipped his beer over him and stormed out. im so ashamed of what ive done and we've talked, but this is just the last in a long line of problems, i dont see how we can move on

well i truly hope that things work out for you lissie......whatever the outcome.....you know we are all here for you (((((hugs)))))

thank you, that means a lot x

Sorry you are having a rough time. A house move is a majorly stressy thing and can't have helped things at all. Esp if you have been doing all the packing (is that right?).

FWIW, 2 thoughts from me (and only thoughts because of course I don't know you two personally and only you can decide what to do):

1. "he calls me a cunt, a slag, a whore, a nutter (because of my pnd and anorexia) and goads me until i snap." This is soooooo wrong and really doesn't have a place in a loving trusting relationship. Do you think it is ok for DS to hear that kind of thing? What would you say to another poster who had been told these things by their DH/DP? (Sorry, but am a bit . You are such a nice person)

2. it's good that you have both apologised after sleeping on it. That's hopeful and if you can give your new move a go, then you can be adults and look back at what has happened and work a out a way forward. Lots of people recommend Relate and so on - do you think it would be a way of making a fresh start? If he is a good man and a good father (apart form the horrible days) then is it worth giving it a last chance?

HTH. And you know you have an escape here if you need it. (We have cute chicks at the mo!)

thank you wellies, to be fair, dh has been doing the packing. i am trying to get my course finished (have an extension til tomorrow) last night i was very cross, but its not just him. i am very difficult to live with, my anorexia is niggling me again at the mo and this stuff is taking its toll on us.

Hi lissie. So sorry you're going through such a rocky time with your h He has no right to speak to you like that and I'm not surprised you poured a beer over his head.

things better now, lissie?