30 years on and my wedding band is never coming off—how about yours?

[Pauline2026]

I often wonder who still wears their wedding ring permanently after many years of marriage.
My mum is 72, and she has never taken off her cigar wedding band since the day my dad slipped it onto her finger 48 years ago. It always fascinated me, and I knew I wanted the exact same style to wear continuously from my wedding day onwards. So, we ordered a matching set: a wide, chunky, plain 9mm band for me, and a thin, simple one for my husband. I have worn mine ever since—for nearly 30 years now.
Because I have rather prominent knuckles and slender fingers, I remember my husband had quite a struggle getting it on during the ceremony. Later, after my first pregnancy, I put on a bit of weight and couldn't have removed it even if I’d wanted to. Now, it simply feels like a part of me. It won't come off at all anymore, as my knuckles have grown larger over time, yet I still adore it.
I’d love to hear your ring stories. Do you still wear yours, and what about your husbands?

I had to have mine cut off and resized five years ago, but I still wear it. My husband died 4 years ago, and I had him cremated still wearing his.

Ok because on the basis of that photo… your finger looks bruised, swollen and just about ready to burst out of that ring!!

Wearing it since 1992, proud to be married to him. He sodded off 2 years ago but I still wear my wedding ring.

Removed for medical things.

Married 34 years and mine has never left my finger - think my husband has taken his off occasionally. My mum had hers on for well over 50 years but had to have it cut off and made bigger which she was quite upset about and wore her mums while hers was at the jewellers.

Married for 34 years . It has never occurred to me to take it off TBH .

Nearly 20 years and I still wear mine all the time. I love it and my engagement ring both as much as the day we got them. Dh also always wears his. But that doesn’t mean they never come off! I have quarterly CT and MRI scans and I take them off for those. They stay at home and I put them back on as soon as I’m back from the hospital.

You drammatize it, and it definitely will go nowhere out of the ring:) it feels fine.

I am literally looking at the photo!! How you can say your finger doesn’t look bruised and very swollen is mind boggling!

It definitely won’t go out of that ring unless you go to A&E and have it cut off!

You’re proud to be married to him but he left you?

why are you so proud to be married to someone who treat you like that!

I take mine off every night and for putting hand cream on etc. it has little diamonds on the band so would get a bit messy. My mum had to have hers cut off and resized as she has arthritis and her fingers had swollen and she had to have an op. She was really upset.

My grandmother wore her court cut 22 carat ring that she bought for 3 guineas in 1917 (£3.30, multiple it by at least 10 for now) from the day she got married in 1918 until her death in 1985. Never left her finger.

She left it to me and it has been my wedding ring in 2 marriages (widowed from the first) because I actually think it is a lucky ring.The marriages last and it makes me feel close to her.

Amazingly, it looks like new and in such high carat gold that is unusual, as it is quite soft and usually wears away.

@Uricon2

My grandmother wore her court cut 22 carat ring that she bought for 3 guineas in 1917 (£3.30, multiple it by at least 10 for now) from the day she got married in 1918 until her death in 1985. Never left her finger.

Actually you would have to multiply by 100 now. £3.30 in 1917 would be worth about £330 now.

I don't get how anyone can go 70 years without EVER taking their wedding ring off. There must have been at least a few occasions where she needed to remove it. I find it very hard to believe that someone could go 50, 60, 70 years without ever taking their wedding ring off their finger, ever.

I don't believe them, and think this is just something they tell people. (Along with 'me and my husband were married 57 years before he died, and we never had a cross word for the entire marriage.')

Sure Joan.

I find being fat and sporting a fairly well established RBF keeps unwanted men away.

ngl OP your hands look more youthful than I imagined 😆

And something is now feeling off with all the men never stopped trying their luck and I’m a skirts only kinda girl 😆 🧐

Good to know, and sorry for inadvertently criticising the skills of you and your colleagues. When I was told it (by someone who had had it done in hospital "good you got it done by a jeweller, they're much less precise in A&E") I was thinking more of emergencies but I can see that there would be plenty of occasions which aren't panic situations.
I've seen the string technique done before and we tried it that day with dental floss but it wouldn't budge!

I haven’t removed mine in 40 years of marriage. Had several operations but it was just taped each time.

Mine are on and off all the time. It depends what I am doing. I don’t wear them when I’m gardening or at the gym. I sometimes forget to put them back on.

DH’s ring on his finger lasted until the end of the honeymoon. It’s been in its box on his bedside table ever since. He isn’t keen on male jewellery and comes from a background where men don’t wear rings, as do I. So, I don’t mind at all.

I take mine off overnight.
Id rather not wear it at all really- I don’t find it comfortable.

Been happily married 25 years and not worn my ring in about 15 years. Dont like wearing one mainly due to weight lifting but also working clinically in the nhs. So couldn’t wear my engagement ring. Not noticed if dh still,wears his or not.

Because I'm a heartbroken old fool but still a very faithful wife!!

I very, very rarely take mine off. It's very slim so it doesn't really get anything stuck under it.
I do take other rings off if I were kneading dough or maybe gardening - esp the ones with stones

I’m a widow (after just seven years marriage). I wear my engagement and wedding ring on the pinky of my right hand (my engagement ring just has some tiny diamonds around it, not one stone), and I wear my husband’s ring on my thumb. I’ll give it to my son when he gets married if he wants it. I don’t take them off.

I’m 46 and got married at 23. Have only taken it off when in hospital for an op. It’s a part of me and I would feel odd without it on