30 years on and my wedding band is never coming off—how about yours?

[Pauline2026]

I often wonder who still wears their wedding ring permanently after many years of marriage.
My mum is 72, and she has never taken off her cigar wedding band since the day my dad slipped it onto her finger 48 years ago. It always fascinated me, and I knew I wanted the exact same style to wear continuously from my wedding day onwards. So, we ordered a matching set: a wide, chunky, plain 9mm band for me, and a thin, simple one for my husband. I have worn mine ever since—for nearly 30 years now.
Because I have rather prominent knuckles and slender fingers, I remember my husband had quite a struggle getting it on during the ceremony. Later, after my first pregnancy, I put on a bit of weight and couldn't have removed it even if I’d wanted to. Now, it simply feels like a part of me. It won't come off at all anymore, as my knuckles have grown larger over time, yet I still adore it.
I’d love to hear your ring stories. Do you still wear yours, and what about your husbands?

I don’t find it unhygienic. Mine has no stones in it, it’s a plain platinum band. It moves a bit on my finger (but the knuckle stops it slipping off), so whenever I wash my hands, soap and water gets around and underneath it.

I've always taken mine off to do cleaning, etc. and usually put it on a ring stand
Except occasionally I would be downstairs and just leave it on the counter...that's when I lost it!

I think it's been about four years now, I had to confess to DH and it's got to be in the house somewhere. He bought me an eternity ring a while back, so I just wear that now...and always put it on the ring stand when I take it off!

I’ve worn my wedding ring coming up to 42 years now. I’ve taken it off maybe twice in that time. I also wear my late mum’s ring on the middle finger of my hand. I put it on the night she died and have only taken it off once, as my daughter wanted to have it close to her on her wedding day. My mum had died 8 weeks before. They are d shape 22ct gold and my late dad made them both.

Do you take your engagement ring off?

I rarely wear my engagement ring. Just for special occasions really. It’s a lot more delicate than my wedding band. Also I don’t feel that delicate rings really suits my hands.

When I was younger, I looked like a teenager who had slipped on her mother’s ring for a bit of fun. Men would sometimes assume this was the case and still try their luck—and as I got older, they never really stopped, even with such a wide band on! My mum always used to say that rings don’t matter anyway, as men look at your legs rather than your hands. Given that I’ve always been a skirts-only sort of girl, she was probably right! :)

There is still a way to go for me! 58 years! Amazing indeed!

His piercing won’t have been magnetic metal then.

taping something does fuck all in an mri, if it’s metal, it’s getting sucked to the magnet.

Did it work against married men? Or just the single ones?

You do know you can just tell men to leave you alone?

you don’t need a ring to communicate, you can use words. The ring says to them I would but I’m married.

what you are saying as that men will leave you alone as they respect you belong to another man. They respect that unknown man, not you.

i hate that women feel the need to invoke a man rather than expect they be listened to.

Only take mine off when necessary eg I had a hand massage once. DH never takes his off

married 23 years

This post and the previous one that mentioned ‘degloving’ are making me scream internally.

So, we ordered a matching set: a wide, chunky, plain 9mm band for me, and a thin, simple one for my husband. I have worn mine ever since—for nearly 30 years now.

has your husband?

Maybe did it once or twice, it is on the other hand and not together with the wedding ring. Clean it with a toohbrush regularly, shines as new:)

he wears his all the time.

I don't know - how would they have told? He has cancer so has had two mris now without removing it.

I've worn mine since DH and I got married 30 years ago. But it was getting difficult to remove so I've just had it resized. DH died in the summer and I want to continue wearing it.

It is on the other hand?

It’s so much easier if they don’t ask at all.

I take mine off to sleep (hate sleeping with jewellery on) and shower. Would be totally freaked out if I couldn’t take it on and off.

married and divorced several times so reluctantly had to take them off, in the end sadly had to sell them as i had no money for food. just got rid of my abusive ex he bought me two rings engagement ones; first was a £29 Argos one that in a temper he cut off my finger with bolt cutters (and my finger too) then the replacement was a £9 Amazon one, that i took off its here somewhere. i hate not having rings on my proper finger have tried other fingers but no that is the best one,

My mum aways believed it was unlucky to remove your wedding ring so I haven't for 45 years. I could get it off but if something bad happened I would blame it on taking it off, I know I know, ridiculous. However, I have had an MRI scan with it on.

Here you go:)

Your finger looks swollen and bruised!

no wonder you have your engagement on the other hand

it looks like you’re cutting the circulation off

In the evening fingers are a bit puffy, but it turns really well and feels lose, tgere is an indent of course after all tgese years and it sits free there but wont move over knuckle. Tge circulation is fine, do not worry:)

I married my second husband in 2007, after being together 5 years. My husband past away in 2018 unexpectedly. My wedding ring remains on my finger, and his is below mine from the day he passed. They will both, remain there until my allotted time