Finding out my boyfriend cheated 2 weeks before I’m due to give birth

[mermaid2024]

My c section is scheduled for 2 weeks time and I found out my boyfriend met up with a girl last week and went shopping with her. We also have a 2 year old. I don’t know how I’m going to cope with a newborn and 2 year old and fresh from a c section. I just don’t want to be around him and I’m so disgusted that he’s done something like this. He’s my entire support system and financially seen as I left work a few months ago before our second came. I just feel so stuck and mentally exhausted. Any advice on what I should do?

Perhaps you should read OP's latest update about what he has actually said. Even he admits he has behaved badly.

shopping is fine, but he had lied and has been secretive about it, the deceit is not ok

If my DH went shopping with a random woman after speaking with her for 3 weeks, regardless of anything physical happening, I would class it as cheating. Emotional affairs are still cheating.

Another man full of sweets talk after he has been caught. It's truly sickening. In your final month of pregnancy when you feel vulnerable and need him to step up he's too busy flirting with OW. He should be spending his money on you and your DC not OW. Only you can decide if you can overlook his pathetic behaviour or not. If you do decide to stay with him, which you might decide to do as you are having a C section, put him on his final warning. Good luck on your birth.

That message makes me want to vomit

My husband cheated whilst I was pregnant - I also had a high risk pregnancy and he basically was using it as a distraction / way of avoiding thinking about the issues - could it be similar for yours?

Im not saying that in any way makes it ok - it’s weak and selfish and i wish I’d left when i found out but it might be a why if you’re searching for that. (I know i was).

That is not cheating.

To class that as cheating shows how controlling you are. We all have free agency.

@TouchMyBumThisIsLife ,

So, he meets a random woman online and spends family money buying her things? Is that fine for you?

And do you really think he wanted nothing in return, either that day or in the future?

What are your thoughts on his message?
Mine are that he isn't sorry,he's sorry he got caught.....
He doesn't say why he decided to do what he did.
An apology without a why usually isn't sincere and the same thing will happen again its just a matter of time.