this is a long story….
i currently live in Scotland I moved here in 2020 to be with my boyfriend and left my family in England, we very quickly fell pregnant and now have 3 children 5,4,3 my eldest is diagnosed autistic pre verbal and my second child has suspected ADHD and honestly my boyfriend is useless. We live in a very small village his family are 20/30 minutes away we never see anyone have no friends and I only leave the house for an appointment or taking my kids to nursery he recently lost his job and sleeps all day till 1-2pm doesn’t help with cleaning and doesn’t really parent the kids I have it all on my shoulders I recently started taking each child to go see my family for a week and he does it all fine by himself but the minute I come back he goes straight back to how he was and he’s so miserable gets extremely grumpy very quickly.
I am just miserable honestly. I’ve told him before we should break up and he can move in with his mother and have the kids every week his response is that I would need to call the police to get him out he knows I won’t do this as I am petrified of social services not for any particular reason I just hear so many stories about them…. Am I over reacting to take my kids and go back to England to live near my family? I don’t love him anymore and am extremely depressed/suicidal thoughts
please be kind I have no one else to talk to about this