Am I falling out of love?

[Banoffee89]

Been with my partner 2 years, both in our 30s and I really miss the early days when we would meet for dates and inwas excited to see him. We don't live together but he stays a few times a week. We do still go out on dates.
Some of the noises he makes grate on me , he also burps constantly after having a drink , he does it inward to be polite but it's still really annoying as I can still hear it. He has no idea how much he does it..
He's also put on weight , I also have started reminiscing about when I used to date different men from the apps, it was exciting and I sort of miss it.
He's a great guy and treats me very well , just don't know if this is a phase or if I am genuinely not feeling it anymore. I don't want to break up with him and regret it. I'm just really confused.

I should also say that the sex is really good, and from reading some posts on MN, a lot of men have ED or some other issue in the bedroom. So that's definitely a plus

Btw, if he really is the man for you, then he may go away and mature and sort himself out and find his way back to you? You never know!

But this isn’t working for you at the moment if you are looking around at other men, and that’s ok.

@Rattlethegate7799 he lives with a housemate, so thats why he comes to mine

@Rattlethegate7799 also that's lovely what you wrote about your husband, I'm happy that you still feel that way about him. Thank you for the kind advice

My pleasure and I hope things work out for you and you can make sense of your feelings. Maybe take a break, or go away for a while, and focus on yourself to gain a clearer perspective?

@Rattlethegate7799 thanks, I did think about asking him for a break just to be on my own and see if I miss him etc, my biggest fear is ending it and then regretting it in a few months time or more and then it's too late as he has maybe met someone else

It sounds like the relationship has gone stale and you are missing adventure and excitement. He may be stable and safe but he sounds like he is actually boring you, and his little “issues” are now grating.
move on. It’s only been 2 years.

If boredom and irritation has set in it doesn't sound great for the long term, especially if you are fantasising about other men. If you really feel the relationship is worth salvaging then mention the burping and how uneasant you find it and suggest he stops having fizzy drinks. Certainly don't provide them when he comes to you. If he refuses then you know he's not going to change.

So he’s good to you and the sec is good.

im afraid some internal burping (likely due to a medical issue that probably a GP will never get to the bottom of) would not be getting in the way of having fun with a nice decent man who’s good in the bedroom - they’re like hens teeth.

Why don't you share these issues with him and see how he responds. If he makes effort to resolve the situation then you may be able to work through them. Treat this as a natural transition point rather than an immediate sign to break up. Use this time to gently but honestly communicate the small habits that are grating on you so resentment doesn't build, while intentionally replacing your usual dates with novel, exciting activities to see if you can trigger that early-days dopamine. If you breathe new energy into your routine and find that you still feel disconnected, repulsed, or constantly longing for the single life, you will have the clarity you need to walk away without the lingering fear of regret.

@CarbonelKitten I would but really , how can I ask him to not burp so much, burping is involuntary, I just don't understand why he does it excessively, I don't remember feeling like this during the first year, when he does do it, it's always inwardly usually and then he will say excuse me. But , god it's annoying, a couple of times we have been up close and he's had to burp and hes done it to the side, it's so off-putting, I drink a lot of coke and I certainly don't need to burp to that level

I probably should say that I am quite sensitive to noise anyway and so this definitely doesn't help

I know a man who burps like this
it’s revolting so I understand

would you two going away on a trip or holiday bring some love / spark back ?

I think you’ve got the ick. Difficult to come back from.

Burping isn't involuntary.
It's disgusting.
A man who was showing an interest in me also did this, endlessly, so I blocked him. Mind you, he was also very stupid and always getting too close. Very, very annoying.

Married

Move on, don’t get stuck with him.