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Justified? Or have I been an arse?

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CantStopBeingAnArse · 30/10/2026 23:33

Was culling my Instagram follows earlier, then looked at my ‘suggested for you’. Profile of an attractive young woman I didn’t recognise popped up, ‘followed by BF’… looked at profile, she was a young woman (22) with lots of scantily clothed / bikini / inappropriate poses, etc. Followed by my BF and she follows him back. Sent him a screenshot, to which he replies ‘she works in the office’
Now, that may be so, but is it really appropriate that BF follows her account? He’s late 40’s…

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VioletsTale · 31/10/2026 13:33

Depends. Does he generally add loads/most of his colleagues regardless of sex and attractiveness? Or does she stand out as a deliberate choice?

Everybody adds everybody at my work so I’ve ended up with women half my age in scantily clad outfits/ poses. I am a woman of course so that might make it different in your eyes.

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