I’ve been really struggling for the past year to understand why DP has gone off me.
We’ve been together 8 years. It was instant soulmates at first glance, and we felt really surprised but lucky to find each other. We were both divorced with children and in our 40s, and didn’t really expect to then find the love of our life.
we basically had a wonderful relationship for the next 5 years and managed to live together with our children.
within 2 years of living together everything changed- and DP basically went off me and became a complete and utter arsehole.
it didn’t affect our sex life which was just getting better and better. But it must have happened gradually as I couldn’t understand it, or believe it.
nothing else changed in our circumstances, kids were fine, we had the same jobs.
only thing I can think of is that he has incredibly low self worth, so defaults down to taking it out on me.
he’s in a lot of debt which he point blank refuses to deal with. I broached the subject a couple of times, but it didn’t get us anywhere.
but now our relationship is basically done. I just can’t understand that something I was so sure about could have changed so much.
the last 3 valentines days he’s point blank ignored me. He’s rude and undermines things I try to do. I feel I’ve become a horrible shell. We no longer live together, and after I see him I feel awful for the next day or two, then bounce back to my old self again.
anyway, I know he has turned horrible, I just can’t understand why things change.
I feel the hope of how amazing it was at the beginning has kept me clinging on pointlessly.