Ex sabotaging our house sale and I don’t know what else to do

[Salenightmare]

I ended my relationship in May. It’s complicated, we have a child, and things aren’t amicable. We’ve each been staying one week on one week off at the house to help keep things normal for our child.

The house has been on the market for a month, my ex is struggling with the fact the relationship has ended and it needs to be sold.

On the weeks he is in the house he has made things difficult for the estate agent and made no effort to get the house in a nice state for viewings. So I have been trying to schedule them for the weeks when I am living there.

We had a second viewing yesterday, the couple were apparently really keen and wanted to bring one of their parents along. Annoyingly, it’s my ex’s week at the house - I told him how important it was for it to be tidy. So he suggested I went around on Tuesday evening to help, which I did.

I am the main contact for the estate agent. Yesterday afternoon, I got a call to say that the viewers won’t be proceeding and that the house was not in a suitable state for the viewing yesterday.

Basically, my ex had deliberately used one of the loos and not flushed this. He admitted this to me last night. He said he can’t cope with the thought of the house selling and us not being together and says we have to try again.

I am so angry and don’t know what to do. I feel like the house is never going to sell whilst he’s there. I guess I’m looking for a handhold and any constructive suggestions.

Like so many threads on MN these days, the 'OP' has posted two posts and disappeared and has no other posting history under this name.

You are all wasting your breath now. 'She' is not listening. 'She' never was.

Fingery streaks of actual shit AALLL down the wall around the loo-roll holder. Over the years so much piss had splashed up the walls around the toilet that it had penetrated the plaster.

Enough ginger/grey pubes to fill half a hoover cannister. It was like somebody had shaved an elderly orangutan.

The bathroom hadn't been cleaned properly at all in years. Black thick mold, everything was coated in that orange coloured soap scum/body detritus that builds up if you don't clean sinks/baths. I spent 3 full days with bleach, mold-and-mildew cleaner, steamer, limescale remover, various industrial chemicals bought online, and it just still felt gross. Radiator so rusted it fell off the wall.

I couldn't stand it so just had to magic up the money and rip it out.

Surprisingly there were no photos of the bathroom on the sales listing...

Tell him you’ll report him to the police for controlling behaviour as he is trying to force the continuation of the relationship against your will and he either helps to get the house sold or you will be applying for an occupancy order too that bans him from entering the home.

You’re going to have to say to him that he can’t do the week on week off thing
you stay in the house
get your solicitor on board with this too

Just do the viewings on your weeks. And make sure that the sale hand over is on your week. Becuase he might try something the week before to stop it going through.

And make sure the sale money goes to YOUR bank account. They won’t split it. So get it to your account and then make the split.