Ghosting!

[Gershep22]

Quick survey…
How many days in your opinion need to pass between a message/call etc before it’s a clear not interested sign?!
This is following date 2. A “sleep over” at his house on Wed night. Heard from him Thurs morning and again on Fri morning. Zero since… It’s Monday.

A guy that’s interested isn’t going to ignore you for days, even if unwell, I’m sure his fingers would still work to message! quite honestly if he does come back, he doesn’t deserve you, it probably means he just wants sex again and /or hasn’t worked out with someone else. Treat him the same would be my advice, left unread and delete.
Dont give up but I’d go slower next time.

Maybe he is just busy, most men do not like talking to women everyday.

Well it is Hallowe’en 🤣 👻 👀

The person you are supposed to be with, will not leave you questioning the relationship.
It should be easy and it will be with the right one.
Have fun

Speaking from experience the early dates in dating words spoke in these msgs are literally just that.
Take it with a pinch of salt.. be warm but don't over give to someone very early on .
I think yes you have to take a person on face value if they say they're unwell .
You did right to not text him again .. move forward with your life date other people.
You like the idea of him you don't know him always keep this in mind it's keeps you grounded not to run before you can walk.

If he hasn’t replied to you the same day I’d say that’s a ghosting. Nobody is too busy to send a reply to someone they want to speak to.

I’m entirely in agreement with this. Although we’re a long way from the “he won’t respect you in the morning” days I would want to really get to know someone before sleeping with them. Like OP I can’t cope with casual sex - I rather admire women who can!

”It's up to you if you're okay giving the gift of your body to someone”

No, she didn’t give him anything, she still has her body.

Am I the only one who doesn’t like this comment? You all seem to find it okay?

Did he send anything more after reading the message? He is probably a twat.

probably the thing to do would not sleep with him on the second date or go to their house. You're going to find plenty of men who will just use you for a romp in the sack and disappear if you keep doing this.

Going for coffee isn't about the coffee. you don't have to have the coffee you can have tea or water or a soda

If he is interested he will let you know and even if he was Ill I think would have replied by now
sounds like he had a date for the weekend . Don’t be his back up plan if that goes tits up.

Never ever keep texting someone who hasn’t texted you back. Do not double or triple message

unless you want to look desperate . It’s basic respect for yourself really

personally I’d hold off on shagging them on date 2 and talking long into the night etc etc. absolutely FINE if you want this stuff too and are happy to be dumped after the sex but this isn’t the case here

just delete his number and move on.

I am going to be the devil's advocate - sorry. If he was an online date then I wonder if he felt that sex on the second date was a bit scatter-brained?