Husband being sneaky

[SCLover84]

Would it bother you if you found out your husband had ordered a lesbian calendar? He's having it delivered to his mum's house (she's 75!). Just the other week I discovered he'd had three large photos of Megan Fox delivered to her house, I got him to show me when he got home, one was her dressed like a school girl which I find very distasteful. He was very sheepish and said sorry but now this...! I wouldn't be too bothered but it's the sneaky way he's doing it, he's had other photos of women in underwear sent to his mum's before. He's had three calendars this year and last year of women in underwear etc. It's the underhand way he's doing it I find hurtful, or am I making too much of this (I was brought up very strictly 🙄).

Wtf? What do you mean large photos? What is he doing with all this imagery? And yeh the school girl thing is weird

Wrong wrong wrong. Serious words needed.
Be strong OP don't stand for any bullshit excuses .
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Come on, you know this isn't right. Strict upbringing or not. He's being very strange.

What does his Mum say.......

No idea! Like all mums their son's can do no wrong as I've found out in the past!!!

11 x 8.5 inches. I've no idea what he's doing with it, he's got a calendar of Megan Fox in his bedroom this year and has ordered one for next year. He had a calendar of some other woman which he took to work, Some golfer/model Spiranac or something. His colleague always has a calendar of women's arses up at work apparently!!

This is the guy who was wanting to buy a blow up doll OP? And who you have a non existent sex life with?
Sounds like the calendars are just yet another symptom of your dysfunctional marriage. Do you really think staying together is a good thing?

I don’t understand. He’s ordering them secretly, but then casually putting them up in the house? What?

What decade is this? Why can't he just look at things on his phone?

Bigger image to wank over perhaps. Op said "his bedroom " so they have separate rooms.

This will be a very odd couple in RL I can guarantee.

It's weird behaviour but it sounds like there's a ton of context here that you didn't mention. Did you just want everyone to say 'your husband's a weirdo', which he is, without mentioning the whole bizarre set-up of your relationship?

Yes OP, this would massively bother me. It would give me the ik. I would lose all respect for my DP if he did this.

😂

What’s the set-up? 👀

‘His’ bedroom? Do you sleep in separate rooms?

The main thing that strikes me about this isn’t ’man likes to look at women’ but ‘man buys glamour photos and calendars like a 14-year-old boy in 1992’, to be honest. It’s very immature for an adult man. Does he not realise he can see whatever he wants on his phone?

Yes I need to know the ‘set up’ too because this is just… not ringing true for me at all

I’ve just seen from your other thread that you and your husband haven’t had sex for four years.

I suspect there’s a ton about your relationship you’re not telling us.

Blow up dollars you see the one about the blow up dolls??

I don’t know what to make of this one, op. Your husband is literally a wanker, isn’t he? In pre-internet days, he’d have been one of those shifty-looking individuals thumbing through the top-shelf magazines in the local newsagent.

Zero sex, a bit porn-sick, interested in inflatable dolls - he’s not exactly love’s young dream, let’s face it. I’d find the level of disrespect hard to overcome, personally, and I think the ick would be growing to insurmountable proportions.

He’s behaving like a teenager in the days before internet - weird! Assume you have separate bedrooms so sounds like there are other issues ?

People say he’s behaving like a teenager before the internet but he probably was a teenager before the internet so maybe this is all he knows.

it isn’t great behaviour but if you haven’t had a sex life for four years and he wants something to wank to rather than have an affair then it could be worse. (I know the photos of Megan Fox dressed as a school girl are sick but presumably she was a consenting adult as opposed to a coerced actual school girl).

op your relationship is dysfunctional. Wouldn’t it be better for both of you if you were apart?

Yeah, your marriage is dead. He’s a bit of a creep but you don’t get a say in what he can or can’t do unless he’s spending your money. I think if I was in a happy healthy relationship then I’d be gutted, but really, you’re just flatmates. I’m surprised it’s bothering you as much as it is.

Haven’t rtft but…. Is he going to his mums to have a wank? Eeeew.

We've always had separate rooms as I struggle to sleep and we have different bedtimes as well, lots of people do, it's no big deal! We both got health issues about the same time, sex wasn't good before, I blame his porn watching and the death grip. He got a phone last year but didn't tell me about it and I found out three months later. I know he looks at multiple pictures of women online most days but I'm not naive enough as most men do. He doesn't know but I've bought myself a hunks calendar for next year, just can't wait to see his face when he sees it. (He actually offered to buy me one for Christmas).