Don't really know what my question is...I guess I just need to get this off my chest.
My boyfriend is entirely conflict-avoidant and maybe even generally avoidant, emotionally. Obviously I don't want to be arguing either, but I mean there are times he will flee because he suspects we're going to argue, because we've disagreed.
It's almost like he goes into flight/flight and just goes...but he can't see that in doing so, he's actually doing more harm than good.
I don't believe I'm an unreasonable person. I don't shout, I'm not unkind or aggressive.
He is VERY opinionated and it's almost like when I disagree with his opinion, or question his thinking, he then gets annoyed and walks off.
He'll then ignore me for hours. If i message or try to call, he will ignore me.
I'm aware it's not healthy and I'm definitely starting to see it as a red flag for stonewalling/control.
Today he told me I "turn everything into an argument" which is untrue. I don't.
I just think he can't cope with me having a different opinion to him.
I'm not chasing him. He can fuck himself right now to be honest!