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Men please... are there men out there who don't follow endless women on social media?

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AcrosstheBorder · 19/10/2026 11:46

Just that really......

Any out there in today's crazy world that respect the woman they are with and want to please her and have real intimacy rather than the endless, mindless addition of one woman after another for masturbation?

Starting to think I will remain single. So many women seem to just accept this... accept no sex.. accept no true intimacy.

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AcrosstheBorder · 21/10/2026 12:13

BigBadPotato · 21/10/2026 11:09

It is a terribly unattractive trait op, I agree. My husband doesn’t, as many others on here, if that helps ‘prove’ they dont all do it. It’s just endless tractors, fields, cows and rugby!

It does seem that many men do act this way though, following endless women purely for perving purposes, and it’s disheartening. That being said, and this is something I know I’ve talked to friends etc about before, why are they so stupid as to actually follow all these women and to actually press ‘like’ or whatever on their photos, can’t they be a bit more discreet?! I don’t think anyone expects men (or women!) to just never notice attractive people again but being ao blatant about it is icky.

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It's all public on all his social media. Absolutely no shame nor any sense of how humiliating and embarrassing it is for me either. I don't think he knows how to hide it, but that has been good for me to know the real person.

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AcrosstheBorder · 21/10/2026 12:17

FrippEnos · 20/10/2026 19:27

What do you define as "random women"?

Women he doesn't know, most of them under 30, one model who has the look he likes looks older than me, but posing in underwear, a lot of sexualised stuff, and again, the specific look he likes (which I am not).

None of them are his friends in real life. Most of them in other countries. On Facebook he has befriended some extremely young women, who may be AI, but for no other reason than they have this look. One looks around 18. If that.

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Applestroodle · 21/10/2026 12:24

My husband doesn’t do social media other than Facebook. He is a member of several groups: disused railway stations, Land Rovers, steam engines, aeroplanes, solar power etc.

None of which seem to have decreased his libido.

SmallDFartyCarNRG · 21/10/2026 12:30

AcrosstheBorder · 21/10/2026 12:17

Women he doesn't know, most of them under 30, one model who has the look he likes looks older than me, but posing in underwear, a lot of sexualised stuff, and again, the specific look he likes (which I am not).

None of them are his friends in real life. Most of them in other countries. On Facebook he has befriended some extremely young women, who may be AI, but for no other reason than they have this look. One looks around 18. If that.

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Yep this gives me the Grandad thinking the girl in the shop is secretly in love with him vibes. He clearly doesn't care it hurts you. To me that is more important and often the case with a lot of these types - they'd rather wank to porn than have sex with the real life partner who is slowly falling into depression because he only has eyes for, in effect, a cartoon character of a woman.

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