DS is mid 20s, he has lived away since uni but comes home all the time as he has always been close to his siblings and shares a hobby with his dad.
He lives with a girlfriend and they constantly bicker and end up not speaking. When she comes to our home for the weekend things are fraught between them. She has had some extreme mental health needs in the past and struggles with work issues to the point she has recently quit work completely (not on benefits) and he is now financially responsible for her.
He has started to moan about his job (which he previously loved) and all aspects of his life.
He has adopted a 'victim' mindset talking about how hard his life is when actually he has had a lovely upbringing, with every single convenience given to him, new car for his 18th birthday etc.
They totally drag each other down.
He has lost contact with his friends.
I do feel that he is depressed and I feel his relationship isn't helping either.
He came home on his own last week, I thought to get a bit of breathing space away from his partner, he told us he was thinking of quitting his job and when DH expressed some concern at this, DS stormed out.
He went back to his house but we haven't heard from him since.
DH and I are worried sick. DH has cardiac issues which are exacerbated by stress, DS knows this but doesn't seem to care.
He is hurting all of us.
I don't know what to do, I love him so much, I want to help him but he won't answer our calls or texts.