Feeling sad my bad marriage has ruined my friendships

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To cut a very long story short, my marriage reached a crisis point a couple of years ago and very nearly ended. I confided in my two closest friends and told them just how bad things had been at home (no violence or abuse, just loneliness and resentment. Some mean behaviour).

Ultimately I made the decision to stay. I initially had hopes my marriage would improve but that’s not really borne out. I am staying for the moment but that may change.

My two friends at the time were great and very supportive, but it was clear to me they thought I should leave. I feel my decision to stay has now put some distance between us and it feels like there’s an elephant in the room when we meet. I feel they have lost some respect for me.

I no longer talk much about my marriage problems because I know there’s nothing more boring and frustrating than someone constantly moaning about a problem but not doing anything to fix it. It’s left me with not much to talk about & I feel awkward.

We met for a coffee at the weekend and I'm
still feeling sad. Has anyone experienced anything similar?

If a friend doesnt want to take my advice, I am fine with that, it's only my opinion after all and I dont always take advice given to me. I also only give advice if asked, I never give unsolicited advice so if someone has literally asked me for my opinion, I presume they actually want to hear it, otherwise why ask?

Thats not what is irritating people - it's the repetitive, chronic complaining about the same issue over and over again but refusing to do anything about it which becomes draining. Thats what people find hard.