So I’ve been with my DP for 3 years, just had a baby together. He has another child from his previous marriage. Today his child mentioned their mums birthday (turning 31). I never knew how old she was before. My DP is 36. But he told me that they were together for 5 years before marrying and they got married a year before DC was born. DC is 10. So by my maths that means they got married when his ex was 20. And therefore he must have met her when she was 15 and he was 20. So I naturally queried this as surely that is dodgy as fuck no?! He’s back tracked and said oh it can’t have been that long then, and thinks she was 17, just turning 18. But I have no clue now whether he’s lying or not. And that would mean they got married after 2 years which seems odd at that age but I know plenty of people probably do. But he’s mentioned other little things in the past like taking years to save up for the ring because they met when he was at uni and money wise they didn’t have much until after DC was born.
I just don’t know what to do now. He’s gone in a mood with me for asking him what he calls ‘pointless’ questions as he doesn’t think we should be focusing on our past and ex’s. And for thinking that he’s dodgy in the first place as I suppose I’ve basically accused him of being with a minor. So he doesn’t want to talk about it anymore. Nor to me right now. So what would you do? Trust what he’s saying and drop it?