I have been with my boyfriend Bill 18 months.
I have been loose friends with Mel and Bill for over 10 years.
Mel's DD Sue has been dating Bill's son Ben for just over a year. They are 17.
Since Mel's seperation, I've been spending more time with her. Last week, she told me a few things that Ben had spoken to her about regarding Bill. She's also told me about the plans Ben and Sue have for holidays this month. Mel acknowledged she needs to speak to Bill about these things.
She's been loose friends with Bill longer than I have, but again, her seperation meant the 3 of us have been out more in group settings than before, so they're now closer too.
I'm now in this weird position where i know things about Ben that Bill doesn't. I don't want to betray loyalties to Mel but I think Bill needs to know. I also don't spend much time with Ben, so don't get an opportunity to say to him "have a chat with your dad about..."
I've told Bill that Mel has told me stuff about Ben, and it feels wrong to tell him as it's not my place. Bill is ok with that and understands i feel in the middle. I've asked Mel to talk to Bill asap about these things
It's nothing lifechanging or worrying about Ben. Just information I'd rather Mel told Bill, not me, as i feel i'm keeping secrets from my boyfriend. And i don't like it.
How would you handle in the future if Mel talks more about Ben?