Am V with DH! OK, so he's got a cold and is 'a bit tired' (BIG WOW - I'm a LOT tired almost every day!). The thing is, when he gets miserable and moody (he acts like Kevin from the Harry Enfield sketches!), he's a real pain in the arse to deal with and ends up taking it out on DD! For instance, tonight I ended up here, in the office, boo-ing my eyes out cos he was 'tired' and therefore in a bad mood and instead of being nice and patient with DD, he ended up shovelling her tea down her throat. Before she had time to swallow, he was in with the next spoon (she's only 5mth! Poor wee thing) then, whilst propped on his knee, he shoved the bottle in her mouth and watched TV, paying her no attention at all. This resulted in milk pouring out of her mouth and soaking her neck! I DARE not say anything cos any time I ask him to do something different or pick him up for the way he's doing something with DD, he goes into a massive sulk about how I am allways, apparently, criticising him and that 'he can't do anything right'. This is not the case - of course, if I think that he's doing something not quite right, I try to tell him in a calm, diplomatic way, so that it can't be misconstrued. I'm at a loss now as, wanting to do the very best for DD results in heartache between me and DH! It's almost like I have to choose and, quite frankly, I shouldn't have to!!
Another example is, unfortunately for him, I am a whizz at getting DD to sleep almost immediately. Tonight she was a bit grumpy (teething and a bit of a cold) and was screaming her head off at bedtime (V V unusual for DD). DH, instead of asking me to take over to get her to sleep, he stubbornly persisted in trying to do it himself which only resulted in DD being unhappy for longer than necessary! It's like he would rather let her cry than ask for my help!
Gosh - I've waffled on a bit!!! Grateful for any comments either way!