As the title says, it's a grandparent one, more specifically, my mother and my youngest child.
Youngest recently got his A-level results and has an apprenticeship place for next month. On results day there was some uncertainty about whether he'd be able to accept the place or not (it's all sorted now). I didn't tell my mother because I didn't want to get into the whole thing, we are not close, and tbh she's never been interested in DS and has never tried to hide that fact. A few days after results day, I got a very blunt message asking if he got the grades he needed. Still not wanting to go into it, and wanting to protect DS's privacy, I told her he hadn't decided what he wanted to do and was considering other options because he wasn't sure about the commute. I thought this was perfectly reasonable and left no room for criticism or arguing. I was wrong.
She is suddenly very very invested in DS accepting the place. Messaging me to say he's wasting an opportunity, she doesn't understand why he would throw it away, she knows some people she thinks he should speak to for advice, has he accepted it yet, what is he playing at etc etc.
In amongst all this, not a single positive. She hasn't said well done to DS (she hasn't contacted him at all). Just this sudden pressure on me. TBH it's in character but I am just finding it so bizarre. She's never had any interest in him (despite being the exact opposite with the eldest, to the point that I went LC because I felt that I couldn't make her behave but I didn't have to facilitate her behaviour).
DH says she's just a silly old woman, ignore it. But I just don't get why she's so bothered all of a sudden. All I can think is that she's been bragging to other people and is panicking that she might now be made to look foolish. It just really upsets me that she thinks she can behave the way she has, and still think she has the right to an opinion on his choices.