Just that. Do you include spending money for dcs, stuff they need for their hobbies, birthday and Christmas presents ect in the household budget?
Dp thinks these things shouldn't be included in my contribution to the household, and only the bills I pay should be included, and that it doesnt count that I pay for all these things, basically he thinks im not pulling my weight financially. He earns more than me. I very rarely buy nice things for myself.
The bills I pay for plus these extra bits that I pay for make our contributions around equal (although obviously these things can fluctuate month by month, i have worked it out roughly on a yearly basis before though).
We have separate finances (I know this isnt popular on mn but dp is irresponsible with money so i feel it gives me a bit of protection to keep it separate), kids are teens with fairly expensive hobbies so over the course of the year it certainly adds up what I spend on them.