Maybe I should post this in AIBU. Anyways, newish relationship, like 8 months. He's met my family in the local area, got a few in NZ and USA, so not those as yet, I've met his adult children and one of his sisters. I got on well with all of them.
One of his sisters was down for a few days a couple of months ago. They spent some time together alone and then we went for drinks together. She went home the next day. He told me she was coming down with her partner a few weeks back and we talked about all going out together.
Fast forward to yesterday. He said he'd get in touch. Crickets until 11 pm. An attempt to call me, I was asleep by then, then a text to tell me they had all been out together and had a great time, him and BOTH his sisters. So the older one there as well.
There's a backstory here, don't want to do a drip feed but will keep it as short as I can. When we first met, I saw a Whatsapp from his older sister. He had met me around 4 weeks before this message and was telling her how great I was. I'm Irish and she said "Never trust the Irish". I saw this message as he was flicking through photos she had sent him. There were a couple of other negative things said about the Irish.
I did wonder if her sudden appearance on this visit meant a change of plans. Despite having stuff going on at home, I had said I would be free.
I realise brothers and sisters might want alone time but I don't understand why he didn't tell me that. And didn't tell me that both sisters would now be visiting.
It has felt strained for a number of reasons lately as well and I suspect from things he has said and how he is behaving that he is still fixated on his ex of over 5 years ago. We had a massive falling out about it a few months back. My gut has been telling me it's not working. I think I'm just venting as I feel left out and let down and a little bit alone with my own stuff.