I hate my husbands drinking , he’s not a nasty drunk , but he does get argumentative .
first the good things , he works hard and is generous with money , he does nice things with our children and if I want anything I can have it . I don’t have expensive habits and I do have a small income of my own .
He has weekends away seeing childhood friends and has at least one lads holiday a year . Not a problem for me . Our children are 18 and 12 so the younger hard years are over .
yesterday is the problem and all the times before . He had the day off and he want on his own into town , came back at 1 and I smelt alcohol , not drunk though , he carried on drinking through the day in plastic cups and by 6 pm he was slurring and talking loudly , being obnoxious so I ignored him and went out to a shop , my eldest served tea up and they ate . He knew I was upset and kept saying What ? to me . The eldest decided to go upstairs and me and youngest decided to watch a movie . She said it’s a shame daddy isn’t watching it . He was snoring loudly by 8pm and refusing to go to bed when she woke him , it was so loud we couldn’t hear the tv.
when he went to bed the eldest came down and we had a lovely evening .
the atmosphere is horrible when he drinks , the only reason we don’t argue is because I won’t .
We have talked many times about daytime drinking and keeping it out of the house , or drinking after 7ish . I don’t want my children to think having a few and falling asleep in the afternoon is normal .
he misses so much family time by doing this , the kids laugh at him and I feel really sad .
thoughts please