Children of parents who drink a lot

[Loveadonkey]

I feel a bit stuck with some personal issues and my partner suggested i was stuck on issues as a child. My father was alcohol dependent and my mother had depression for much of my childhood. They would argue downstairs after I had gone to bed and in order for my mother to escape my father she would come into my room to sleep with me. My father then would follow her, usually naked, and they would put the light on and continue to argue. Eventually they would stop. I was awake throughout but could not say anything as was too afraid. What shall I do I m 60 years old. Thanks

That sounds awful. Some counseling may help. What you went through sounds traumatic and it seems to be having a lasting impact on you.

Have you ever had counselling? That sounds terrible and something a child should never have to experience. I also had alcoholic parents and am teetotal as a result, so my children will never have to worry about me drinking.

I’m so sorry this happened to you.

I really recommend finding a therapist that you like (it can take a couple of go’s to find someone you click with) - try the BACP website to find therapists in your area.

You have pretty much described my childhood experience too OP. You are not alone. Google "NACOA" , an excellent organisation that supports the children of alcoholics. Sending love your way. ❤️

Thank you I will follow up on your recommendations. Sorry for anyone who has experienced the same. Bless you and lots of love xx.

That sounds awful OP and I do believe these early childhood experiences stay with you. My dad went through a period of very heavy drinking after a tragic loss and I remember feeling scared and anxious because I didn't recognise my lovely dad in that unpredictable angry drunk person. Thankfully he did get help and stop.

I would urge you to have some counselling - it can be really helpful. Sending you hugs 🫂

Definitely have some counselling.

My father was an alcoholic and was very abusive to my DM. I don’t have many memories from below age 12 (When he finally drank himself to death) but most of them are pretty bloody horrific.

I second contacting that charity NACOA. Fantastic support for people of any age who are or were affected by their parent/s drinking.

Thanks again xx

Traumatic childhood experiences shape our responses throughout life. Counselling would help you make sense of things, and will help you to challenge how you are feeling. It’s really important to find someone who you feel comfortable opening up to. I’m sorry for what you went through, our parents really can do a number on us.