I (27F) have been with my boyfriend (28M) for about 8–9 months. We currently live in the same house with other people.
Last month, I had a miscarriage, and since then I've been struggling emotionally. I also have trust issues because of things that have happened during our relationship.
While I was pregnant, I saw a screenshot from one of his video calls. A girl was lifting her crop top and showing him her breasts. We had a huge argument. He told me she was his sister. He even showed me his call history and said he had first called his cousin, who lives with his mother and sister, and then handed the phone to his sister during the call. He said that in their culture this kind of thing is normal. After that incident, he changed his phone number.
We had also talked about moving out and getting a place together without our friends, but later he told me he wanted to live alone and wasn't interested in living with his girlfriend.
He almost never tells me he loves me or expresses affection with words. Sometimes he does thoughtful things for me, but I rarely receive verbal reassurance or affection.
Last Sunday, he went to another city to visit his male friend. After that, he disappeared until Tuesday morning. His internet was off the entire time, and I was terrified because I thought something bad had happened to him. On Tuesday morning, I realized he had gone home to change his clothes before work, and later I saw him crossing the street as I was walking home.
Another thing that really bothers me is that on Monday morning he texted me saying he was going to work. However, last night I found out from one of his friends that he never went to work that day—he had actually taken the day off.
This morning, I confronted him about it and told him I knew he hadn't gone to work. He admitted that he hadn't, but said he was going to tell me the truth when he got home. That explanation doesn't make sense to me because he had already told me he was at work, so it still feels like he lied.
What hurts even more is that when I had my miscarriage last month, he didn't even take a full day off to be with me. He only took a few hours off. But this time, he took an entire day off without telling me and lied about going to work.
I'm going to post the messages he sent me below.
Based on everything I've written, do you think these are signs that he's cheating, or could there be another explanation? I'm already questioning this relationship, but before I end it, I want outside opinions to know whether my suspicions are reasonable.