Is my husband playing mind games? The other evening we were discussing whether he could pick me up from work and he said he had an appointment but I could go to an arranged place and he’d pick me up from there after his appointment. I planned that I would stop off at a shop and buy some dinner ingredients before he collected me. In the morning I asked him what time we should meet to go home and he asked me why. I said because of the appointment he had and the arrangement we had made to get home after. He said to me that he didn’t know what I was talking about and he was coming home as usual. I said but we had an entire conversation and arranged him collecting me and I would be stopping at shops first. He said that he had no recollection of that conversation and got quite defensive. I said that one of us had got our wires crossed as I know we spoke about and if he is certain that we didn’t then we should just forget about it as we both think we’re right but one of us is wrong. Later that evening he brought the subject up again and said he didn’t know why I thought he had an appointment when he is clearly at home. I said it was a pointless conversation to continue with because it had happened yesterday and we got nowhere so what’s the point in dragging it on. Later on this evening I said I was going to bed and he randomly says “I bet it is, what are you going to do?” I asked him what he meant and he said I had just told him I was too hot to sleep. I said I never said that I said I was going to bed and he looked at me and sighed ok. I said that he was confusing me by changing our conversations to suggest I’m saying things I’m not and have never said. He just laughed and said ok. So he is either playing mind games and making out that I’m losing my mind, or he is actually losing his! We’ve been married over 30 years, our children are grown up and we are in our 60s. He did this a few years ago. He kept telling me things and saying that he had already told me and was just reminding me. I got really upset at the time and found it distressing. I ended up becoming suspicious of one of the things he said he had told me about and I made a doctors appointment and I told him he had to come with me to explain all the irregular things that had been occurring and it all stopped. I’m going to keep a diary of our conversations as a log. We’ve always bumbled along quite nicely in the 40 years we’ve been together, it’s all very odd