Need advice on getting violent husband out of the house

[Ash1221]

HELP. Please looking for some advice. I’ve had a free consultation with a solicitor for 15 mins but can’t afford the £350 p/h. Long story short my husband and I have had problems over the years. On 3 separate occasions he has been violent to me, please don’t judge me for staying with him, I’m here because I need help and advice. I have a teenage son from a previous marriage. My current husband and I have a 4 year old, he is however severely disabled with learning difficulties and completely non verbal and prone to screaming/lashing out if unhappy. I don’t want to go into his condition. A couple of months ago husband hurt the 4 year old. That for me ended the marriage, he was regretful and moved out. I started looking at divorce, but I don’t work, I hardly sleep looking after our boy is a full time job with next to support from local authority. I can’t leave him with husband as I’m scared for him. Again please don’t judge, I need advice and help – a few weeks ago I let husband come back home, again he ended up hurting our 4 year old, nothing too bad, but very hard slaps leaving marks and obviously hurting him. He moved out again.
Today I’ve come home and husband is here, refusing to leave. Saying tough I need to put up with it. He’s been going through all my things, he has trackers on my phone and he won’t leave me alone. I’ve driven off to tesco with the kids now. I need help, I need to know how I can move forward. The house is in both our names, we’ve been together for 8 years. I don’t even care about getting equity out of the divorce I just need peace until I can find a way to make the divorce happen. I have no family here (I’m from Australia) he has family in London he has been staying with, but now refusing to leave. I don’t want to phone the police – say what? He’s hurt me and the child a few times please ask him to leave? The violence (to me) has been noted by our GP so it’s on record, his family are wealthy and know he has been violent and have offered to give money to rent somewhere but he wont.

How do I get him out of the house? How do I even get divorced when I have no income? I really don’t want to go to police unless it’s the only choice I have. Is there someone I contact for help?

Please go to a police station and tell them what you've written here. They will be able to help you. Do not go home while he's there. The police will take the fact that he's hurt you and your 4 year old extremely seriously.

The police can have him evicted and barred from the property for a period (for me, it qas 3 months). This was enough time to plan next steps and move on. You have a legal duty of care to your children and if they are exposed to his violence you MUST take steps to protect them. Please call the police ASAP.

You get him out the house by involving the police. They will bail him and his conditions will state he isn't allowed around you or the kids or the home. They may put a non harassment order in place when it goes to court. They will put a referral to social work. Social Work won't allow him around the kids and they will support you. Then you get a lawyer and you get all the court orders you can. You may get legal aid. These steps.. they will be life changing for you. Lastly, call womens aid or a domestic abuse helpline. Life doesn't have to be this way, only you have the power to change it for you and your kids. Wishing you and your kids the best of luck.

Police is your first point given he is abusing the child. Then a locksmith. The women’s aid.

how are things this morning OP?

You need to get the police involved.

I would report the assaults to the police ASAP.They will have experience of dealing with situations like this.