My partner (M) and I (F) have been together for 13 years and have two children together. He’s a good hearted, kind man who I know loves us. Since the fairly harrowing passing of my mum, and the birth of our youngest (age 3), we have lived life more as housemates, rather than romantic partners. I don’t want to break up and would like to get some ‘spark’ back but I’m finding myself ‘getting the ick’ over certain things, mainly bowel related, shall we say. He has always had bad guts; this has been investigated but he’s not received a diagnosis of any medical condition. I think it comes from his diet, in particular eating too much meat. The toilets are splattered - he does try to clean it but always misses bits - and he regularly leaves skids in his boxers (which I notice whilst sorted the washing). He also doesn’t seem to notice when his towel needs washing and I usually have to throw it into the wash basket when I smell it stinking! He’s quite sensitive to the bowel issues and gets defensive if I ever mention anything so I’m not sure how to tackle it! I’ve found myself wondering if we could stay together but live separately! However, this isn’t really an option for us financially, or whilst the kids are so young. Help! AIBU?!