Lonely

[LonelyLoserr]

Life as a single mum is so unbelievably lonely, If I knew that it would have been this lonely i definitely would have made different decisions and just stayed with my ex. Can anyone else relate? (And no it doesn’t get better, I’ve been single for years it gets worse and more lonely)

There must have been good reasons you split up with him.

I'm a single mum I love it

Then you can’t relate?

No tbh he broke up with me. He wanted to get back together but I said no. Now I have to live with that.

Things will get better though. Your dc will get older, gain independence and you'll have more freedom.

Life doesn't stay the same forever.

I doubt an ex who dumped you previously would have made you happy or secure.

As I said it has been years. It doesn’t get any better it gets more lonely

If you want a friend pm me

I can relate there are elements of being lonely but I've been single a while. I've learnt to appreciate the time with my child and doing things by myself. I've been lonely but id rather appreciate the quiet than be with someone who isn't right for me. You feel sad now but you'll meet someone one day and right now you need to try find things you are thankful for and appreciate yourself.

I’ve been single for many years, I have given up on any hope of ever meeting anyone again.

How many years? How old is your child or children?

@LonelyLoserr OP how old are your kids?

I don’t want to give any details that are too outing but I was just saying that it isnt early days. I hear a lot “it gets better” so I was clarifying that thats not always the case.

Telling us your children ages is not outing. How can we comment if you don’t give any info?

Because what does their age change? I could be lonely whatever age they are there isnt a cut off, you can have no children and be lonely.

So what are you doing about it ?

If you don't like your current situation, what are you doing to change it for the better ?

Well actually if you have a 12 year old apparently there are a few other children that age, especially in Yorkshire. But I know what you mean about ‘too outing’, especially if they are between 7 and 10. There are only a few of those in the UK.

Edited to remove ‘apparently’. Too many of those as well.

If your ex left you when your child was a month old and they’re now two years old, that’s one situation.

If your child/ren is/are 17 and three quarters then that’s a different situation.

It doesn’t really matter. No one gets to decide if someone else can be lonely or not.

I don’t know I can’t force anyone to be in a relationship with me.

I wasn't necessarily talking about you being in a relationship with someone.

You said you are lonely.
There are lots of things you can do to combat that.

Of course no one can decide if someone is lonely or not. That’s not what people are trying to do. They are trying to learn more about you to give you practical advise. Which I thought was the point of posting. I see now I was wrong.

I asked if anyone can relate..

What stops you from getting out there and finding new friends & hobbies, do you not have family or friends that could look after your kid/s while you go out and unbreak your loneliness?

Are you bored or lonely? Loneliness is a state of mind, figure out what would make you feel less lonely and do more of it.

Ok. No

No I don’t have anyone that will have my children