My first time posting, possibly outing as I don't know how to change my username. My emotions are all over the place at the moment and im heartbroken.
Partner of twenty years announced tonight he is gay. We have one child together who is 16.
Before we met he had a casual relationship with a man which involved him cross dressing also a couple of times with another man, I was told it was just him exploring as he was curious. A couple of incidents have happened over the years with the cross dressing but suddenly came to a stop until a few months ago I found another mobile phone at the side of the couch which didn'tbelong to any of us, so I switched it on and found out he had been to a clinic about him wanting to become female, he'd even had blood tests to start taking hormones, lots of chat gpt about him wanting to become a woman. Obviously I confronted him, he said he'd been thinking about it for at least a year and then put a stop to it all because he realised it wasn't what he wanted. I'm going to post just this bit as im Obviously pressing something and my text disappears. I can't type it all again