Cousin ignoring me after seeing me with my toxic ex, is she being unfair?

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I’m really upset that my cousin has fallen out with me.
I had been in a toxic relationship for 2 years with a man who was using substances to cope with terrible things he had been through. Which in turn made him treat me not very good.
my family don’t like him because of it, obviously. I left him. But I have been in touch with him. I love him but there is no chance that I would get back with him.
I met him for a drink at the weekend and a family member saw me and told my cousin.
She messaged me and had a go and now is just ignoring me and won’t speak to me.

i understand she is upset but I don’t think I deserve her to treat me like a villain.

Is she wrong for treating me like this?

im only human at the end of the day

Are you reading a different thread?

She's not going to be there for Round whatever # it is, she's making that clear. She's not trying to control you, she's just keeping her distance from you and your toxic ex.

Leave her alone.

She should just have silently blocked you, rather than bothering to have a go.

But your cousin is only human at the end of the day.

My daughter has been caught up in a very toxic relationship. She is taking it really badly, and I have done everything in my power to help her get over him. However, for a year now, she has been going back and forth, unable to end it. She is my child, and all I want is for her to be happy and free of this awful person. I have done everything I could, including making her cry on numerous occasions while trying to explain how bad and toxic the relationship is. Still, every few weeks, I find that she is with him again.

Like one of the OPs suggested, this is exhausting, painful, and frustrating. I love my child, and I know she needs my help, love, and support, but there are days when I feel so angry simply because I feel helpless.

OP, your cousin not only knows you but she knows your three children. She will no doubt be thinking about them just as much as about you.

She's not the one being unfair.

im only human at the end of the day

So is she.
As others have said it can be exhausting and frustrating having friends/family in these kinds of relationships and in many cases people can't support you indefinitely.

Oh well, if she has been there supporting you through all this mess and heartache, which certainly takes a toll on those providing the support, by going out with him again you just shown her that all her time, effort and hurt she experienced by supporting you was a waste of time, so no wonder she doesn’t want to be in touch anymore.