I (39f) and DH (39m) have been together 18 years and have a DC (10f). We met while online gaming. DH has always been a gamer and that will never stop, i am more like a part time gamer and play games only when i can be bothered. Over the weekend i found out that DH has become very emotionally attached to a certain female youtuber who streams herself playing games, some of which are my DH favourite games. He has also became attached to her online community via discord.
I didnt mind until i realised that he was blurring the lines between talking about games to being more personal.
He would say stuff like the youtuber were "his ray of sunshine", "kindred spirit", "how she has that special something that makes anything entertaining" and things like how " at the end of his hard day at work her streams were what made his day".
It didnt just stop at addressing this youtuber...he wrote stuff into her online community channel on discord...like "she and her community are the only reason he can get out of bed in the morning to go to work", there was even an AI poster of the youtuber as a jedi with a droid on her back and he commented that the "protagonist was gorgeous and the side kick jedi was not bad either" just things that to me crossed boundries.
So after i saw these i seriously consisered leaving him but he said i was overreacting as he hadnt cheated, I told him to me it felt like an emotional affair. When challeneged about the stuff written he said that some stuff crossed the line and that he was just lonely for the friendship of gamers and he enjoyed her community and i was taking stuff out of context.
Guess what im looking for in a vent/rant and to see if im over reacting