Is it time to end things with my partner in my 50s

[Toxicor]

I need some thoughts & straight talking. Pretty sure I know the answer but have no one I can discuss this with irl.

Been with my partner for around 3 years, we don’t live together so not sure I’m allowed to call him my partner but we’re in our 50s so boyfriend sounds weird.

Lots of little things have been niggling at my gut for a while. My gut feeling is it’s time to call it a day but I’m scared of throwing it away & being on my own.

Some examples from this weekend….

We were going out for dinner on Friday & he threw a strop & slammed doors because he said my face was tripping me, for context I had a really long & tiring week at work & had an hour to get ready whilst everyone else had the day off.

Saturday we had a huge argument over nothing which escalated very quickly.

Tonight he is sulking in bed because I refused sex at teatime because I wasn’t feeling well. I’ve been up & spoke to him & he ignored me. It’s too late to go home now but I don’t want to be here.

Tell me your thoughts please.

Surely being on your own is better than that. Leave and don't look back

I think you have answered your own question. Life is too short to Waste it on a stroppy man child .

Totally agree.

This will only get worse, not better OP. I speak as an undoubtedly older person (twice married and divorced/happily separated)-the best peace of my life has been getting rid of the shouting, the emotional abuse and the constant turmoil of living with angry men. I now live alone with my two dogs, and I am the happiest i've ever been in my life. I have friends, family and a part time job I enjoy. That is enough. I love living alone and the peace it brings me, and I shall never share my home with another human being, again. Good luck moving forward OP.

This behaviour will get worse, not better.
Being on your own is better than treading on eggshells?
Is there a reason of your choosing why you live separately - if not, that’s probably another pointer that this isn’t the right relationship.

Well, I'd rather be on my own than put up with that! Seriously, life's too short. There's a lot of life in you yet and many adventures that you could be having. Don't waste any more of your time with him.

Also, why can't you go home? How far is it? It's not that late and I'd rather have a long drive than spend time in the sulky man-baby's house!

The hot weather has made everyone grumpy!

Yes you are right, it’s time to call it a day

of course it’s scary but it’s also better being happier and you will be once you have dumped him

Like @whippersnapper55 said, ’Also, why can't you go home? How far is it? It's not that late and I'd rather have a long drive than spend time in the sulky man-baby's house!’

I feel this is a really easy answer in your situation (obviously not so easy to go through with). As you don't live together, have no children together and no long history together, it is so much simpler to make a clean break. Surely a future on your own is better than this awful sounding man?

Kindness is a deal breaker for me. He doesn’t sound kind, respectful or loving towards you.

Yeah bin him off and be happy for it

Excuse my naïvety but what does your face tripping you mean?

Oh dump the controlling twat, thank god you don't live together. I don't know what he means by your face was tripping you.

Three days of crappy behaviour in a row would make me think twice. I'd be going home ASAP, you said tonight isn't possible, but then as early as possible tomorrow. Get out of there, get some headspace and then reflect on what this weekend has told you about your relationship.

Yes time to leave this relationship. I’d far rather be on my own than put up with that nonsense

I’ll admit I was only on my own for three years in my 50s, but honestly it was fine and I’d do it again as needed. In what world is it not better to be on your own than putting up with this sort of crap?

Three arguments in three days would be enough to say forget it, but slamming doors like a teenager and sulking over sex even as one-offs are major red flags on their own.

You certainly won’t be alone forever but even if you were it sounds a lot better than this.

In your shoes, however late it is, just bug*er off home & sleep peacefully.
Why oh why wouldn’t you? He sounds obnoxious. Dump him.

It means to look miserable, i.e. you've got such a long face that you're tripping over it.

Yep, leave the sulky git to stew and never go back. Selfish prick he is @Toxicor

If you're generally not happy and both your emotional and physical needs aren't being met, I think you should leave.

Has it always been this way?
Is there any chance things may change?

You have one life. Live it. Life is too short x

He sounds delightful.
I hope you went home and blocked the arsehole.

Of course you should end the relationship. He’s a total cunt.

Why on earth would you stay with a man like this? You don’t live with him, you don’t have kids with him and there are no legal complications so it’s not like you have any reason not to leave him. He sounds vile.

This isn't better than being on your own. Get rid.

Which bit of being on your own do you think would be worse than dating a manchild?