Told boyfriend only part of truth after kissing someone else

[Sunshine989]

I have been dating my bf for a few months. I was at a party the other day and drunk and I kissed someone else. I love my bf and feel so guilty. I told him I went off with a guy (which I sincerely apologised for) and that he tried to kiss me but I said I didn’t kiss him back, which isn’t true. So I’ve told him half the story. I don’t want to hurt him over something so small and stupid. There were a few people I know at the party, and the guy I kissed has a few mutuals with me and my bf but I think it unlikely he will tell anyone. Still, the anxiety that it will come out is killing me. How do I stop worrying? Please I need advice.

What does "went off with a guy" mean?

So you cheated. Tell him and hope he leaves you.

You need to tell him. It’s not small and stupid is it? You don’t want to tell him and feel all this guilt so clearly even you know it’s not a small thing.

How old are you? You’ve made a mistake and hopefully learnt a lesson. Better now than when you’re 10 years into a marriage. Don’t do it again and don’t get drunk at parties if you can’t trust yourself to behave. And stop lying to your boyfriend! He deserves honesty.

As in went and chatted with him in a different room

I’m young and yes definitely learnt my lesson but I’m anxious

It was a small thing that’s why I don’t want to hurt him over it

Would your boyfriend think it’s a small thing? Doubt it.

If you truly want to have good ethics and want to be a decent gf to anybody, you will no longer drink alcohol around the opposite gender, since you know you have the ability to cross boundaries when inebriated.

If you don't want to give up the party-girl lifestyle, then really your guilt is pointless if you don't change your behavior and vow to be a better gf.

If your bf kissed a girl back at a party, would you think it was small and stupid?

I know when I entered a serious relationship, the activities I did with friends altered for the good of my relationship. There are other fun things you can do with friends besides drinking at parties.

It's a drunken kiss at a party FFS...it's not worth all this angst

Blimey you sound like a laugh

Blimey you sound like a laugh

Oh I will never again. I’m not much of a party girl anyway, but now I’m never going to even chat to someone of the opposite gender at a party. But I’m scared he will find out. I overthink and worry about everything.

Then don’t do stupid shit. It’s so easy not to cheat.

okay I agree I think that it’s not worth the angst bc I’m young first proper relationship and as cliche as it sounds it really did mean nothing. I am just terrified it will come out

Cool so that’s ok then. He is ok to go and snog another woman

What’s your age got to do with anything??

Yes it could likely come out. Best to tell him then eh?

i would forget about it and never speak of it.

if anyone said i’d kissed him back i’d say that was the other girl he kissed not me. he was drunk and kissing everyone. nothing to do with me…

and i’d learn from it. dont get too drunk. it lowers inhibitions and you do stupid things youll regret later.

Honestly if it was the same situation as me and he felt as guilty and vowed to himself to never do it again I would be fine with it. We’ve only been together for a few months. I’d never want to ruin a relationship over that

Perhaps you're not ready for a relationship if you're tempted to go snogging other blokes when you go out? 🤷‍♀️

Yup. Never again.

These responses are ridiculous.

The op is a young woman in a relatively new relationship who had a drunken kiss she regrets...it's nothing.

Sorry op but this board is full of scorned women who think cheating is akin to genocide. It's absolute lunacy.

Cut yourself some slack. You're only human...if it comes out just deny it

So your fella had a free pass then to do the same?

A drunken kiss at a party that he regretted? Meh... I'd rather he didn't but it's hardly the end of the world. I could totally get past it. It's nothing

Jesus if that’s the way your mind works I feel sorry for your partner.

how can you condone cheating? So this time it was a kiss, next sniff of alcohol who knows!