Parter told me to leave his house. We share a child.

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My parter owns our home, and we share a 18 month old. Last night he kicked me out and told me I had 4 days to get everything out or it will be on the driveway.

I contribute to a fair share of bills but not household. I work full time as does he.
I have provided the bulk of childcare and responsibilities since she was born. Do I have any rights to stay until I can provide a house for myself and child?
He also wants 50/50 custody but has been unable to provide anywhere near this until this situation. Do I have grounds to dispute this?

Unfortunately I think if you are not married and the house is his, he can tell you to leave if he wants to.

Absolute scumbag to do that to you though. Are you able to stay with family? Can you go to the council and request emergency accommodation?

You should put this under legal.

I doubt you have a claim legally, but even if you did, do you really want to stay living with a man who behaves like this? The inevitable conflict will not be healthy for your daughter. Do you have anyone you could stay with? You can go to the council to declare yourself as emergency homeless. You will be priority as you have a child though council housing is scarce so you may get b&b accommodation.

He's entitled to claim 50/50 - I imagine he is wanting this to avoid paying maintenance. You are entitled to dispute it so gather as much evidence as you can for your case against it. I would include him making you and your daughter homeless with four days notice as part of this.

I have no legal expertise though so I would put this in legal.

What an utter shit he is. I hope you find somewhere to live.

Just realised he has already kicked you out. Is your daughter with you or him?

You need legal advice. Women’s Aid will be able to put you in touch with a solicitor. I got some free advice that way.

Also, if he does throw you out, you may well be alle to go on the homeless register with your local council and they will be obliged to house you but it may well not be anywhere near your area. I’m in London and my council was going to house me in Coventry although luckily I found a place myself just in time.

You may be entitled to something under Sched 1 of Chikdrens act. This can include property rights. Solicitor. Asap

I have my daughter, we stayed in a hotel last night. He said he wants her to stay at the house with him.
I have family I can stay with temporarily.
Thanks you for replying

Go and stay with your family. You need their support. Good luck OP. Even though it might not feel like it yet, you and your daughter have so much more potential to be happy and settled if you don’t live with him anymore.

I wouldn't let him as he might not give her back

Keep all texts from him as proof also about kicking you out

You could remind him that you will need time to find somewhere so his daughter will be ok too

OP,written communication with him only. Do not agree for him to take her as he might not return her and then you’re facing legal battle to get her back.
Stay with your family. Let him take you to court if he wants contact. Get legal advice.

No way if he kicked you out then he kicked you both out. Go to your family.

Not sure where you are but go to women's aid and your local council and explain the situation, tell them he's kicked you out they'll most likely put you in temporary accommodation till they can find you somewhere more suitable

Although the warnings have been shouted from the rooftops not to have kids with someone who doesn’t offer marriage in return if there is a big difference in economic status.. but it’s done .Hopefully others here will heed the advice.

If I were you and you have a spare £100 or can find one of MN miracle free half hour legal consultations .. I would get some advice about schedule 1 of the children’s act . He has no obligation to house you but does need to house his child . A quick ask of AI gives you the gist .

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If you have family to stay with. do that. The man is an arse and keeping him at a distance and forging a new life for yourself and your daughter is your best option.
Your concern regarding him is the custody - I would put your legal efforts into that.

Do you have any concerns about his ability to care for her?

Do not let her stay with him!!! If I were you I’d move as far away as you can asap. What a cunt.

Document everything and get legal advice.

This is abusive. Was he abusive before?

What an awful position to be in

First go to the council and tell them you are homeless with your dd as your ex dp has kicked you out and you don't have anywhere to stay. That gets you into the first steps of obtaining a home. First it will be temporary but as a homeless person without anywhere to stay or live you will be priority

Secondly, if your dp wants 50/50 care then call his bluff and allow this to happen, see how long it lasts.... (probably 5 minutes) if you do 4 days and night each, both will get equal weekends and time off this way. Otherwise you might find you get to do the bulk of the work and he gets the Disney bits. Id be very unwilling to swap any days either - your dc must be priority and come first. If he needs to do something one evening - then he must source a babysitter as its not. down to you any longer (which many men, not all default to = oh yes mum can step in)

Open up one of the parenting together apps so you can keep each other updated

Make sure you claim UC if you are earning under £40k per year and possibly more if its childcare

Whatever else you do, keep your child with you. All communication must now be in writing. He sounds abusive and i’m guessing there are other ways in which he’s been nasty. Go to your family. I would suggest speaking to Women’s Aid ASAP as they may have helpful advice. If you must go back to collect more things, do NOT go alone - take someone with you but ideally leave your shared child with your parents.

I would get as far away from him as possible tbh. Where is your support network?

Don’t take DC back to the house, keep them safe.

TBF we don't know if there is a difference in income, and she says they both work full time. She says she did not pay towards his housing costs, so she has not lost out there. Her issue is housing insecurity but she has family to live with and a full time job so she'll be able to rent.

OP has not been reckless here.

You poor thing. I would echo what others are saying. He has kicked you both out. Do not let your child stay with him, he may decide to keep them and you will face a lengthy battle getting them back. If he’s been callous enough to do what he’s done so far, I wouldn’t be surprised if he tried.

stay with family, seek help from the council and contact women’s aid. Get all the support you can in place. Only contact him through text/email so everything is documented.

I’m so sorry you’re in this situation but moving forwards know your rights and do not give into this man’s demands.

I have savings and earn over 40k so not sure I qualify for much, despite the £900 nursery bill.
I have family but will need to source housing for a permanent solution.
I think you are right about agreeing and seeing it become unmanageable for him. Thank you for your advice

What kicked it all off.