Parter told me to leave his house. We share a child.

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My parter owns our home, and we share a 18 month old. Last night he kicked me out and told me I had 4 days to get everything out or it will be on the driveway.

I contribute to a fair share of bills but not household. I work full time as does he.
I have provided the bulk of childcare and responsibilities since she was born. Do I have any rights to stay until I can provide a house for myself and child?
He also wants 50/50 custody but has been unable to provide anywhere near this until this situation. Do I have grounds to dispute this?

Depending on which district or county council you live - your earnings may exceeded the limit on applying for a straightforward council/social property. BUT your earning will not exclude you from a shared ownership, so still get your name down on the council list - as you need to do this to purchase a shared ownership property.

1)So one find out if your earnings excluded you from getting a straight forward social housing rental.

2)Put your name down on the list in preparation for shared ownerhsip and see if there is anything in your area

Look for a private rental if 1) is a negative

Your earnings should pass the credit check - remember you'll have to give 2 months notice on a rental if you choose to go down the shared ownership route and some councils do shared ownership where you can buy the house bit by bit. So £30k down on a £300k house part rent part mortgage, but you can then buy another £30k and reduce your rent and own more of your home. Eventually you could purchase 100% of the property - unlike social housing shared ownership which never lets you purchase the entire house/flat

Make sure you keep child benefit in your name if applicable

It really is a horrible time for you and something ive been through. My top tips are keep emotion out of the negotiation on childcare arrangements between you both. Remember he still thinks you'll help him out, so it will come as a shock to him that you won's. As he has left the relationship there is a 90% chance he has someone else, either lined up or was having an affair - sorry to say but men are often lazy and don't end a relationship unless they have someone else. So be prepared for this.

Keep records (text) of him communicating that he is evicting you and with short notice. You might need it if there is a custody battle.
Use online benefit calculator to see if you’re entitled to housing benefit assistance.
If you are, you could declare yourself homeless at your local council and see if there’s any help available. It’s usually a phone line these days.
You may well qualify for some assistance from the local authority, though unlikely to be ‘priority need’ unless there was domestic abuse. If you are going to present as homeless, don’t stay with family first as they will accept that as you having somewhere to stay for now and not being in an emergency situation. If you apply as homeless on the day you’re more likely to be given assistance, say you were kicked out by partner and have stayed in a hotel with the child and have nowhere to go.
Childcare wise, accept 50/50 otherwise you’ll be paying all the childcare costs and then juggling school holidays and work for years while he gets to focus on his career and plays Disney dad.

despite the £900 nursery bill

as pp points out - if he wants 50/50 childcare, he needs to be paying 50/50 for the child at nursery

Until you have a permanent address it's risky dropping dd off there.

Op is not a risk to the child not having a permanent address, off course she can have temporary accommodation and its not a risk for her ex to take the child back to the ops temporary address

Yes it’s a £450 bill now.
by moving out with your child he’s got exactly what he wants. Are you worried about his parenting? I would be letting him do the childcare while you sort out your accommodation.

Stop paying any bills or anything for the house. detach yourself financially. Give him his share of any bills relating to your child. You need to look after yourself now )and probably most of a child) but he is being a typical abusive parent and trying to pretend he will do that so he doesn’t have to pay anything.

As long as you’re not in London you’ll be fine. 1-2 bed flat for now.

Thank Labour, in the future if they get this into law a man would have to be a complete idiot to let a woman move into his property, and the same will happen the other way around.

How to lose your house and have your childrens inheritance stolen.

Some terrible advice here. Do not run far away with your shared child. Do not refuse him access. The courts would take a very dim view of this, especially if he spins it that you left and took his daughter away from him.

Work out a 5050 rota that suits you and present it to him. Also let the nursery know half the bill will be paid by him now, and make sure he's aware.

Use your child free time to sort out some decent housing.

More rationale that you should get married prior to children imo.

Wish you luck OP. Not sure what happened. However he’s a total scammer for kicking you out when you share an 18month old. No matter what you did - if you did anything that is.

And if he spins to a solicitor op is homeless he could apply for an emergency lives with order..

Do not let him. Put something legal in place. Get on the register and never go back to him again if he apologises. Some men use this tactic to control you and keep you in your place. Did you have an argument? Did this take you by surprise. Any other red flags about him? If he was decent he'd help you settle somewhere with your child. If hes just kicking you out and doesn't care then get out and stay out. You'll come back on your feet in time.

Good you took your DD with you.

Get legal advice. I am so sorry.