I just want to know your thoughts on this in a marriage .
Person A has 2 children,living at home ( teen and pre teen ) . Works 40 hour week . Lots of debt that has been taken to simply get through hard times that Person B went through too - and also took debt from. Earns £1800 pm . After contribution to bills plus debts , children costs , petrol etc is left with minimal amount and simply feels like treading water . Currently stuck in a trap of paying around £200 pm to Klarna etc which is from birthdays , Christmas etc and I’ve then had to carry on using it as struggling to pay back . Lives in overdraft , does pretty much all housework shopping etc .
Person B is self employed , earns average £300 per day. Works long hours ( 12 hour days , long commute ) Obviously tax etc has to be counted in . Also has a small side business that can generate anywhere from £50 - £250 pw , although this isn’t guaranteed. Has older child , still pays maintenance but not daily costs etc . Does not have to pay for petrol , has a work vehicle. Goes out socialising minimum of 3 nights per week . Skips work - effectively giving up £300 - like it’s nothing. Can be very generous with gifts etc ,will sometimes fill person A car up etc . However , quite regularly reminds person B that they do not hardly contribute to the household , and has said that the house is not theirs during arguments as person b pays rent .
However - person A puts £950 towards joint bills etc from a total of £2435 . So person A is contributing 40% . Person B earns around triple that .