Very quick post I’m interested in others opinions.
Background, STEXH cheated on me, I found out and we separated a year ago. He’s still with OW. We are selling our jointly owned home. Who ever has our two children stays at the house, he stays with his GF when he doesn’t have the kids and I stay with my mum.
I have now met someone and have let my ex know that the person I’m seeing is popping round next week (daytime, children are not there) it is literally for 1 hour (he’s bringing lunch) as I have no child free time at all in the next 12 days due to ex working away/his social engagements. I thought it was the mature thing to do to give him the heads up, rather than he finds out from a nosy neighbour.
STBEX has said he’s fine with that but ‘doesn’t want’ him spending nights at the house. We’re not even there yet, we’ve not even slept together. But when I pushed him on why, he couldn’t answer me.
To my mind, when the children aren’t at the house, it is my home surely and I can have people over if I want? I would never invite my new partner over when my kids are there, we’re no where near the point of introductions even.
It’s made me a bit angry. He went and started a whole fucking relationship while we were still married and yet I’m being told what I can and cannot do. Ex even went as far to say he finds it strange that my new bf would want to be in ‘our’ house?