Been in a relatively short relationship, 8 months. He suddenly dropped on me today that he doesn’t feel he’s ready for the commitment of our relationship (despite him pursuing me initially, and being very keen on us being official).
We booked a weekend away together for my birthday in early July, and just made the final payments last week. It was his idea!
I’m blindsided, but I know someone who can chop and change so quickly isn’t someone I would want to be with anyway.
He broke up over a phone call and kept reiterating how much he loves me but just doesn’t feel like he is in the headspace for a relationship. He seemed a bit put out when I replied neutrally and said, "Thanks for letting me know, I’d hate to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t really into me."
He immediately protested this and went on a speech about how much he loves me and how much I mean to him. I didn’t reciprocate 🙄
He was also really keen on us remaining friends. I didn’t say much on that topic, as I don't think it would be healthy.
He has a few items of clothing of mine I’d like back, and I'm thinking how best to navigate this. I’m considering sending a direct text requesting if he can just drop them off at my front door or porch when he has a chance?
Does anyone have tips on how to navigate all of this in a dignified manner?
TIA!