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Two weeks in and already feeling unwanted by his mixed signals

112 replies

Linozy · 10/06/2026 07:44

I’ve been dating this guy for 2 weeks now and I’ve seen him & stayed over at his for about 3-4 nights. I’m 2 years older than him.
but I feel like just giving up: at the start I really liked him, he’s super funny, cared about what I had to say, wanted to get to know me etc. but things started arising which makes me feel like he’s put off me. I ignored them at first but now I can’t.. when we first met we didn’t hug atall or touch for that matter, and for the following 4 times I’ve seen him we didn’t hug or kiss upon greeting or me leaving. He doesn’t go out his way to kiss me, when I try kissing him he curls his lips in sometimes.
I have a high sex drive and hes just let me know he doesn’t so sometimes I ask for it and he’ll say things like I’m doing eating for example or I’m ordering food, like basically wrong time to ask. But I wouldn’t be asking for it there and then I would ask to see if he was up for it later. He cooks for me all the time and makes me laugh. I can’t think of anything else that’s good. Oh and another thing my life outside of him is very serious, like the job I’m in and just how I operate in life so with him I like to relax and play around etc, he now says I act like a child all the time when he will play fight back? He does things to start it then when I retaliate he says I’m doing too much.

what is his issue, because he says he wants me around but his actions say otherwise and the affection and sex thing is bizarre to me as I’ve never experienced this with a man.

it’s gotten to the point where if he chooses to hold my hand, it’s a big thing to me and I hate how I’m becoming like this .

OP posts:
Buffs · 10/06/2026 20:42

summitfever · 10/06/2026 08:00

You are WAAAAAAAY too invested in someone you’ve only known exists for a fortnight. And if these issues are so bad in 14 days, it’s a non starter. Learn to give far less of yourself away to men you know nothing about. This isn’t a relationship this is a false start. Move on. And slow down.

Nails it.

WilfredsPies · 10/06/2026 20:55

he told me he likes to move fast and said he preferred how things were going rather than doing the traditional going on dates

I bet he did! Why would he go to all the effort of thinking of nice things you could do together, while you’re getting to know each other, when he could just invite you over, feed you a bit of spag bol and have sex if he fancied it? And now you’ve wasted two weeks of your life with someone who has made you feel immature and oversexed and, by the sounds of it, not much else.

I think you need to look at the choices you’re making and decide whether they’re really working out for you. Because it doesn’t sound like the last two weeks have been that enjoyable for you.

Laura95167 · 10/06/2026 22:50

2 weeks in. Stayed at his 3 or 4 nights?

Want to play fight with him?

This all sounds intense and bizarre.

But in answer to your qn. If he likes you, you know.. if youre confused he doesnt

soontobeamama · 10/06/2026 23:34

It’s been two weeks, it’s not a relationship, just end it.

MerryQuail · Yesterday 00:02

I’m glad my daughter can’t read yet these sorts of posts it makes me so nervous for her! I’d hate her to meet a guy like this in years to come, who may think that every woman is like this - fast jumping in bed and then hanging around the house for days doing housework. Ugh.

Sensiblesal · Yesterday 00:36

This is a lot. Are you under or around 18 by any chance you sound very young.

It’s two weeks but it sounds very intense & a lot of time spent together. Thats not necessarily a bad thing but it sounds like you are rushing head first and this poor fella hasn’t got time to breathe.

Maybe you need to back off a little and go on some proper get to know you dates. Put the sex on hold,

Linozy · Yesterday 02:29

MerryQuail · Yesterday 00:02

I’m glad my daughter can’t read yet these sorts of posts it makes me so nervous for her! I’d hate her to meet a guy like this in years to come, who may think that every woman is like this - fast jumping in bed and then hanging around the house for days doing housework. Ugh.

Doing housework? 😂 who said I was housework? He was taking me out whilst I was there, what an odd thing to say

OP posts:
Linozy · Yesterday 02:30

Thanks for ur input guys: it’s over. Appreciate ur advice!

OP posts:
Tablesandchairs23 · Yesterday 05:26

Why are you so invested and so serious after 2 weeks. This is ridiculous. You sound full on and he's backing off. Call it a day

LHP118 · Yesterday 07:40

That could just be him? He may really like you (as he says with words), but may not be as physical or have the sexual driven you have, etc.

Talk it out as you would an issue at work with a much-respected and friendly colleague. You both have to be taken as you are.... especially within the relationship.

And then make decisions on next steps based on what's most important to you in a relationship.

TreeDudette · Yesterday 07:44

Yeah, if it’s hard at 2 weeks imagine how awful it will be at 2 months. Just knock this on the head and move on, he’s not for you.

MeghannCleary · Yesterday 08:37

Glad you ended it OP

Please tell us your age, I am guessing you are a 19 year old University student?

Take it slow , with the next time. If you are highly sexed then there are other things you can do for that when you are safely by yourself.

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