Two weeks in and already feeling unwanted by his mixed signals

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I’ve been dating this guy for 2 weeks now and I’ve seen him & stayed over at his for about 3-4 nights. I’m 2 years older than him.
but I feel like just giving up: at the start I really liked him, he’s super funny, cared about what I had to say, wanted to get to know me etc. but things started arising which makes me feel like he’s put off me. I ignored them at first but now I can’t.. when we first met we didn’t hug atall or touch for that matter, and for the following 4 times I’ve seen him we didn’t hug or kiss upon greeting or me leaving. He doesn’t go out his way to kiss me, when I try kissing him he curls his lips in sometimes.
I have a high sex drive and hes just let me know he doesn’t so sometimes I ask for it and he’ll say things like I’m doing eating for example or I’m ordering food, like basically wrong time to ask. But I wouldn’t be asking for it there and then I would ask to see if he was up for it later. He cooks for me all the time and makes me laugh. I can’t think of anything else that’s good. Oh and another thing my life outside of him is very serious, like the job I’m in and just how I operate in life so with him I like to relax and play around etc, he now says I act like a child all the time when he will play fight back? He does things to start it then when I retaliate he says I’m doing too much.

what is his issue, because he says he wants me around but his actions say otherwise and the affection and sex thing is bizarre to me as I’ve never experienced this with a man.

it’s gotten to the point where if he chooses to hold my hand, it’s a big thing to me and I hate how I’m becoming like this .

OP, I hope you're about eighteen and just getting used to relationships, because if you're actually well into adulthood and this naive and gullible, I think you should step away from dating until you gain the most basic relationship street smarts.

What you're doing is the equivalent of giving your bank account details to a nice Nigerian prince who emailed you needing a bit of help to temporarily look after his many millions.

Do you think this somehow explains your behaviour??

You certainly don't hang about OP. Onwards and upwards!

A healthy man would want to get to know you before he becomes serious, this man wants to get serious before knowing you and that's a massive 🚩🚩🚩🚩

he's is desperate for supply, he doesn't care about you and is grooming you. If you feel like this after two weeks wait till you get to the 3 months mark.

Exactly this

Yes it does, his behaviour is blatantly showing the kind of person he is and what he's after. Just funny for OP to behave like that then wonder whey he's not acting like a gentleman!

I think you are being too available and he doesn't have to put much (or any) effort in.
Sorry to say, and its possibly old fashioned of me, but men like a challenge. You're a sure thing = less desirable.

Tell me more, I had a boyfriend - turned out to be a dick - who would never call me by my name. He used stupid pet names instead. Very irritating.

Men like a challenge? So more work for women to do to overcome his sub par relational skills? Fuck dancing around trying to unlock the secret code for men who can't even offer the bare minimum.

I used to give any guy I was dating a couple of months before dating exclusively, you're giving this a horrendous amount of thought for someone you've only been seeing for two weeks. Bin him and go out with someone else

FFS, you barely even know him. It’s been two weeks! That’s not a relationship. Just walk away.

This, to be honest.

Literally!

No, not more work, less. You sound too invested. Make him do some of the running.

Is 2 weeks correc or did you become exclusive 2 weeks ago? This is way too much for only 2 weeks if that's correct.

Sorry just saw you quit him.

You’re too full on. Too quick. I’ve known Evri couriers longer than 2 weeks. Best walk away.

I know you say you've ended it, OP, but herea bit of advice going forward with any future blokes.

1. Slow down.
2. "Play fighting" is childish but also, can become unpleasantly violent. I suggest you do not do this.
3. SLOW THE FUCK DOWN.

2 weeks and you’ve slept together 4 times? It sounds like you’ve moved far too fast and are way too intense. Apart from sex how much time have you actually spent together?

Have you been out together at all or has this just been a series of booty calls?

Obviously you've already said you enjoy that aspect, so that's fine, but it suggests that he's doing the absolute bare minimum already.

Couple that with the fact that he's being weird about kissing you, it just doesn't sound great.

The main thing is: it's only been two weeks and you're already rightfully questioning this 'relationship.' Just end it. Don't tie yourself in knots trying to figure this one out.

in 2 weeks I’d still be on my first or second date where maybe a kiss is involved. Are you 15? What have I just read?!

How many hours have you spent with him in this two weeks? 24 hours in a day, thats 336 by my reckoning. Allowing for work and sleep and other times when you are not with him that is hardly any time. It should be fun, interesting and exciting at this very early stage, it sounds the total opposite

kick to kerb.

Wtaf - it’s TWO WEEKS! You’re talking as if it’s been two years! Are you very young? A teenager? Obviously very naive. You need to approach dating in a far more mature manner.

LTB