Just posting to vent as I'm sad about a situation with a male colleague. I'm F, married, him M, has a partner. We worked on a joint project and got into the habit of messaging each other. I supported him for project lead and he got it. We texted a bit of banter, a bit of work stuff, a bit about our kids but mostly humourous things about our workplace. We had two walks around the business campus at lunchtime and an ice cream and that was it over the course of five months. Nothing flirty, just friendly, next thing is last weekend the drunken "I have feelings for you x" text from him. So, so gutted. I told him not to be daft, we're just friends. Now he's " hurt and angry at his behavior and letting.me and his partner down" and essentially doesn't want to talk to me at the moment outside of work things. Honestly fucking men. I really thought this one was different and I'm gutted cos I miss the banter and just feel so damn used.