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Abusive relationships

29 replies

Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 19:52

So we had a break for quite some time and we started talking again he obviously loved on me. I just wanted to see he poured his whole heart out said how much he loves me that I’m his lie in the darkness and be patient with me please, and then we had a little disagreement that blew up because I missed his call and I was practising my singing And now he’s confident that I’m lying about my record label because I’m in the artist development stage and I’ve signed not a very good record label and they’re sort of shelving me so not hardly any of it is out is not out in public which he deeming that I’m a liar. Apparently he called my record label and the person said they don’t know who I am but you couldn’t give me the name of the person he called and spoke to. He has two friends apparently in the music industry that dog into me and I Have confirmed that I’m lying he wanted proof of my record label contract and I said I’d be happy to go through it with him face-to-face, but I’m not emailing him like contract. That’s just crazy. I’m not doing that. I never said I said no he’s pushed back said that it’s over between us. I’m a liar. He doesn’t trust me just endless stuff.

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LizandDerekGoals · 04/06/2026 19:58

He is a complete and utter arsehole. Block him.

Bristolandlazy · 04/06/2026 19:59

You need to move on without him. Block him. He's an idiot.

Harriet36 · 04/06/2026 20:12

Dump him and concentrate on your music career. He’s not worth another second of your time.

Endofyear · 04/06/2026 20:16

Honestly, just tell him to fuck off and don't come back. And mean it.

Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 20:16

LizandDerekGoals · 04/06/2026 19:58

He is a complete and utter arsehole. Block him.

Saying that you’ve got all this information on me and that I’m a liar because I’m not proving to him and showing him my contract and emailing it to him he said I haven’t even given him an ounce of evidence

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Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 20:18

Endofyear · 04/06/2026 20:16

Honestly, just tell him to fuck off and don't come back. And mean it.

And he just messaged me went goodbye honey enjoy your music career when literally two days ago this man was saying how much he loves me cherishes me and he swore on his kids life I’ll never leave you and they’re literally 48 hours he’s left me

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Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 20:19

And said I’m a liar that apparently spoke to someone at my record label but couldn’t give me a fucking name I said if I’m this big fat liar what’s the name of this person then who are they? And he said I don’t need to say that

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LizandDerekGoals · 04/06/2026 20:31

He is a loser and a liar. Block him and ignore his opinion

Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 20:43

LizandDerekGoals · 04/06/2026 20:31

He is a loser and a liar. Block him and ignore his opinion

I’m just sad. I’m devastated because I really thought we might have turned a corner and we never do and it’s all him. It’s not me. I’ve been so consistent for eight months and it’s just been hell these last couple of months have just been held on earth with them the constant needing to prove myself to him after I did something that crossed the boundary for him but I was very sorry and said I’ll never do it again, and since then he just never trust

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Lmnop22 · 04/06/2026 20:46

I don’t follow because there’s no punctuation but he sounds awful. Leave him!

Lmnop22 · 04/06/2026 20:47

What did you do that crossed a boundary?

LizandDerekGoals · 04/06/2026 20:48

it’s just been hell these last couple of months Then it is just no good, is it?
He is abusive. He is accusing you of lying to wind you up.

have you blocked him?

Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 21:28

Lmnop22 · 04/06/2026 20:46

I don’t follow because there’s no punctuation but he sounds awful. Leave him!

Apologies, I’m speaking into my phone

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Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 21:29

Lmnop22 · 04/06/2026 20:47

What did you do that crossed a boundary?

I went to see his mum and he didn’t know about it and he went mental that I did that.

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Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 21:29

LizandDerekGoals · 04/06/2026 20:48

it’s just been hell these last couple of months Then it is just no good, is it?
He is abusive. He is accusing you of lying to wind you up.

have you blocked him?

He says he’s got all this proof that I’m a liar and that three sources have given improve but he can’t show me the proof. The only proof he did was type into AI and AI didn’t pick me up. That was it

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LizandDerekGoals · 04/06/2026 21:35

Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 21:29

He says he’s got all this proof that I’m a liar and that three sources have given improve but he can’t show me the proof. The only proof he did was type into AI and AI didn’t pick me up. That was it

It doesnt matter. He is calling you a liar to make you angry and confused. He doesn't actually care. He is awful.

Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 21:38

LizandDerekGoals · 04/06/2026 21:35

It doesnt matter. He is calling you a liar to make you angry and confused. He doesn't actually care. He is awful.

How do you know ?

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NearlyNewNonny · 04/06/2026 21:47

Going to visit his mum made him angry?

Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 21:55

NearlyNewNonny · 04/06/2026 21:47

Going to visit his mum made him angry?

Correct

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Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 21:56

Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 21:55

Correct

I’m talking extremely angry. He called me a manipulative woman for doing it. We were on and off at the time and I thought if the relationship was over I would say my sort of goodbyes to his mum in my own way cause I knew that he wouldn’t allow me to do that And I was really connected with his mum. She really love me. She was like you are the only one I’ve liked out of all those people that he’s dated so I just wanted to say goodbye and he got incredibly frustrated he said he will never trust me again after that.

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lulubalu · 04/06/2026 22:02

OP - gently, this is not just a red flag or two, it's bunting. Get away from this man.

Bryonny84 · 04/06/2026 22:55

Why would you need this crap in your life? Please leave him and get on with your singing and your own happiness. You don't need this man hanging around, he brings nothing to the party.

LizandDerekGoals · 07/06/2026 09:12

Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 21:38

How do you know ?

How don’t you know? You keep listing ways he is abusive towards you.

People who are abusive towards you do not care about you.

Manonhere · 07/06/2026 09:17

Blondie35 · 04/06/2026 21:29

He says he’s got all this proof that I’m a liar and that three sources have given improve but he can’t show me the proof. The only proof he did was type into AI and AI didn’t pick me up. That was it

Usually when someone in a relationship is making accusations without proof or a reason usually means they have been up to no good themselves... sorry

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 07/06/2026 09:21

He's trying to make you perform. To make you demonstrate how much you love him by stopping doing anything he disapproves of, by scrabbling to prove every single fact you have given him, and he can pull the rug from under your feet by just calling you a liar.

This is not a relationship, this is a hostage situation. He might say he loves you but he does nothing to show it, and words are cheap. He's not the man for you,