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Am I unreasonable to expect him to switch off his alarm?

31 replies

ByUniqueViper · 03/06/2026 07:05

My husband gets up at 5am to go to the gym before work. He sets his alarm clock but usually wakes up before it. But then he often forgets to turn the alarm off. So then it goes off and wakes me up.
Also I cant always find the alarm clock initially as he puts it in different places and he's left our bedroom when it goes off.
I have asked him to try to remember to turn the alarm clock off. He says it doesn't matter because if he didn't wake up before it went off, it would wake me up anyway.
This is true but I feel if it could be avoided then why not avoid it.
For context he works 7 minutes away from home and works a 45 hour week.
I work at home 3 days a week, but twice a week I do a 3 hour round trip to travel to work and I work between 50 to 60 hours a week. I recently booked a week off work as I was exhausted and a blood test revealed I had low iron, B12 and vitamin D which im now building back up and have started feeling better.
Some days I'd just like to stay in bed a little longer so that I don't feel as tired. Am I asking too much?

OP posts:
concertinacornflake · 04/06/2026 18:56

This is really not ok

Owl55 · 04/06/2026 19:04

Start setting an alarm at an earlier time and let him know what it’s like!!

gardenflowergirl · 04/06/2026 19:05

I'd be throwing that alarm clock out.

AutisticLass2026 · 04/06/2026 19:06

My dh gets up at 4am and makes sure his work clothes etc are downstairs so nobody gets disturbed upstairs and soon as alarm goes in our room he puts it off and goes straight out

RedTulip86 · 04/06/2026 21:29

YANBU

Chuck the bloody thing out of the window seeing as your selfish git of a husband doesn’t need it.

What a disrespectful spiteful person he is

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 05/06/2026 05:06

He obviously enjoys annotlying you.
Sound like a knobhead. Some men are like this. Imakes them feel big and in control

I would get separate rooms to sleep in.

Do get your B12 deficieny sorted outasap.It can make you feel really illm

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