Partner staying with his mother and barely replying to messages

[Leana44]

Partner and I have been together for 2 years.
‘He went to his mothers 10 days ago as he has a bad back again. He had an MRI which was fine and bloodwork done. He went from being bedridden and walking with a walking stick one day to completing a 7k walk the next day.
‘I’ve notices he is not really responding to texts so ive just gently been checking in bit have not inundqted him with messages as I know he would hate that
I sent him the following text yesterday as he didn’t answer my last text 2 days ago
Hi I have been worried as l've not heard from you. I hope you are doing ok, get in touch when you're ready 😘
His reply was
we will discuss this Tomorrow
what on earth is going on ?

He’s taking the mickey and has lied to boot.

Block him and rebuild your life without him being at all in it.

we will discuss this Tomorrow

What is he your father? I very much hope you are not available 'tomorrow'.

Block him and move on. Life is too short for this crap.

Thank heaven for small mercies.

Get in there first and end it by text.

Agree, that's such a shitty way to talk to the OP. Putting her on notice that he's going to be having a serious talk with her but not even having the kindness to do it quickly and compassionately? Nah, definitely don't be available tomorrow OP!

Me too

Tell him not to bother. He’s dumped.

Honestly op I think the best thing you can do here is rather than think about what's going on for him, think about what you would want from a relationship. For me just disappearing for days on end would be an immediate deal breaker. If he needs space that's fine but he needs to communicate clearly with you what's happening, why, time frames and check in. Radio silence with no real context and no clear time frame you'll be left hanging for is completely unacceptable for anyone.

I'm not sure why you're handing this guy all your power. If it were me I'd be telling him very clearly that this is not what I expect in a relationship, that it's disrespectful of your time and emotions and I'd be ending it and finding someone who is all in and who is an actual partner to you.

After 2 years together I think his behaviour is appalling. I think he's psyching up to end things in a very cowardly and rude way but honestly op I think if he does he'll be doing you a favour because that's poor form on his part.

I'm with @Bringflowersofthefairest on this.

I am very glad to read that you don't live together! I wouldn't bother waiting to "discuss this Tomorrow" - I'd be dumping him by text today.

Then tell him there’s nothing to discuss, that he’s a rude and thoughtless dickhead, then block him.

What’s your relationship with his mom been like ?

Don't send him any messages! He is not your partner. Partners don't behave like this.

I'd just reply 'I don't think so' and then never speak to or see him again.

You don't go from being bedridden to completing a 7K walk within days. I'm assuming your boyfriend doesn't live with his Mum? So why is he supposedly staying with his Mum? Why can't he rest his back at his own home?? All sounds like bullshit to me.

I suspect he wants out of the relationship and is too weak and cowardly to be honest with you. Rather pathetic for a grown adult really. I wouldn't contact him again, let him come to you, if he doesn't, then you have your answer.

@Leana44 he is not at his mothers .He is with a women

He’s not at his mums, he’s gone on holiday with another woman.

Exactly 💯

So sorry OP, you deserve much better

He will tell you tomorrow? Cheeky git.
Dump.

Erm..walk away - maybe run perhaps.

Think he's got a new bird mate

Don't worry he's not worth it any man who treats you like that is not worth your time

Did he actually go to his mother house? For any grown man, this wouldn't be his first choice. We can't wait to escape from our parents.
I suggest you ignore, get on with your own life and when he comes back in 2 months, give him a carefuklly crafted piece of your mind.

he knows that you care and will pacify him so he’s rude and nasty. He’s only in love with himself and he’s a coward because he is not honest with you. You deserve so much more I hope you break up with him before he uses you more and dumps you while blaming you.

He isn’t at his Mums but either way, he has definitely dumped you. Don’t wait for an explanation, he is a dick who should have told you 2 weeks ago. Move on

You sent him a text two days ago so you sent him another one and he’s replied that he will discuss it with you tomorrow.

There is nothing he can say that can make this right, not that he’s going to try. He’s ignored you for days and most likely lies to you about where he is. Then he has said he will discuss it with you tomorrow like he’s your boss in the fifties.

I would not want to heat his poorly thought out explanation for this where he will doubtless blame you for everything. What is the point? What could he possibly say that could justify his actions?

That he or his mother have a week to live? But he didn’t want you to be involved.
That he was so taken aback by his clear results he needed some space? But he didn’t care enough about you to just say that.
That he was kidnapped at the airport and put in a van? That would be a lie.
That he was ill? But he couldn’t say in the text that he was ill because could only say he will discuss his absence tomorrow.