Partner staying with his mother and barely replying to messages

[Leana44]

Partner and I have been together for 2 years.
‘He went to his mothers 10 days ago as he has a bad back again. He had an MRI which was fine and bloodwork done. He went from being bedridden and walking with a walking stick one day to completing a 7k walk the next day.
‘I’ve notices he is not really responding to texts so ive just gently been checking in bit have not inundqted him with messages as I know he would hate that
I sent him the following text yesterday as he didn’t answer my last text 2 days ago
Hi I have been worried as l've not heard from you. I hope you are doing ok, get in touch when you're ready 😘
His reply was
we will discuss this Tomorrow
what on earth is going on ?

I think he’s checked out of the relationship.

He’s not at his Mothers and he’s a fraud.

I think he has as well

Hopefully you don’t live together so will be easier to disentangle. He obviously doesn’t care about how you have been worried about him.

He isn’t your partner.

In the words of nsync…. Bye bye bye .

sorry he’s being a dick but sounds like a lucky escape and he’s being rude so maybe you should ditch him

Who knows. But op, who cares? You very clearly wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone like this. I’m not even sure why you would have sent that kind message rather than ‘I no longer want to be in a relationship with you.’
stop thinking about whether he likes you or not, and start realising there’s absolutely no way you should like him.

I think the end is in sight I'm afraid. I presume you don't live with him.

He will actually be doing you a massive favour if he is the one to end it, as you don’t seem to realise that you should already have.

That's the beginning of a 'Dear John...' text

Sorry but he's doing a slow fade out.

Sounds like he is taking the piss

If you dont like the energy he is giving, then I wouldnt even wish to wait for an explanation.
Sometimes it hurts but since he has been gone 10 days already then you are already on your way to getting over it.
Wouldn't waste my time if I were you.

Why does he go to his mums? Is he incapable of resting a bad back at home (assume you're living together)? I'd be incredibly suspicious of someone who is bedridden one day and doing a 7k walk the next day.

If he's not communicating with you, not even a very brief text, then I agree he's checked out. He's not considering you at all OP. If you're meeting/talking tomorrow, then my only contribution would be to give him his marching orders.

Edited to say: actually I wouldn't wait until tomorrow. Bag up anything of his at yours and text him when he can collect it.

Whatever the relationship, looks like it's over.

We don’t live together

He's checked out. Luckily you don't live with him. Block him and move on.

Op hes dumped you without saying so, hoping you’d get the hint. I wouldn’t even bother having a convo as his intention from it is to confirm he’s dumped you. He’s pathetic. Just move on now, no need to block him as you won’t hear from him again

Bad back my arse! I'd dump him before he could dump you.

He’s about to ghost u - ghost him first he’s not worth it.

Good, just ignore him now, nothing to discuss, he's not at his mummy's

He went from being bedridden and walking with a walking stick one day to completing a 7k walk the next day.

It's a miracle!

No it's not, he was bullshitting you. Bedrest is not recommended. Heck, patients on ECMO are helped up to walk because the complications of bedrest can be severe. His MRI was clear.

He's split up with you without bothering to tell you.

Good because he's checked out of the relationship.

Yeah he’s not longer in this relationship he just hasn’t had the guys to tell you. He’s a coward and you deserve more.

What’s going on is you need to dump him!

Just text him back, 'Don't bother'.

He's not your partner. He's either with another woman, or he's rude and/or about to dump you.

You can do better.